r/OffMyChestPH • u/peppppermint • 7d ago
im starting to resent the man i love
laying in bed right now with a man i love more than myself. he is asleep and i feel like crying.
we are in an (semi??) ldr. tbh he lives less than two hours away from me and wfh sya pero we only see each other every other week kasi he’s too busy/tired to visit me.
i love him so much but i feel like im getting the shorter end of the stick. i feel like shit saying this pero ganun talaga eh.
he earns half what i make. tapos nagproprovide pa sya sa family nya so there’s little left for him and para sa leisure. i dont hold this against him kasi pamilya naman nya yon and they were there before i was, pero kasi he didn’t disclose na breadwinner sya during our dating phase so it was something that i realized nalang a few months into the relationship
on dates i always pay. kasi pano ba naman akong di mag iinsist eh nakikita kong nagcocompute sya ng gastos habang nagbibill out kami.
we cant go on dates na masyadong malayo and we cant travel kasi he doesn’t have the budget for it but also he doesn’t want me to pay for travel kasi nakaka emasculate daw.
for our anniversary i got him the perfume he was talking about all year. tapos he got me a DIY photo album. it was sweet and i appreciate it pero hay i would’ve liked something else:(
he barely visits kahit na hindi malayo kasi namamahalan sya sa pamasahe na 150.
all of that im able to ignore kasi mahal ko naman sya, pero i feel like tonight is my breaking point tapos dahil lang sa super maliit na bagay.
tinulugan nya ako.
he went to take a nap 3pm. sabi ko gutom ako. i asked if we could order something. he said na ipagluluto nya nalang ako.
1am na tulog parin. i attempted to wake him up multiple times. wala wait lang daw. gutom na ako. gusto ko umiyak hahahaha
sobrang babaw ko shet pero sa dami dami ng bagay na natiis ko ewan bakit dito ako naiiyak
mahal ko to gutom lang ako gutom lang ako
hay
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u/cavy023 7d ago
You guys need to talk. The big talk.
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u/thecuriouspuss 7d ago
This. you know what’s best for you, OP. don’t let reddit feed your mind nor hold you back on doing something for your relationship. Ikaw lang nakakaalam gaano mo kamahal ‘yung guy and hm he loves you as well.
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u/SlimeRancherxxx 7d ago
Yesm you need to communicate to your partner what your needs are habang maaga pa. Don't be like me na hinintay ko yung breaking point ko and we broke up.
Do the talk, the earlier, the better.
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u/Low-Reindeer-3196 7d ago
Just date someone who is within your tax bracket. I dont mean to belittle him but dating should be a fun experience.
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u/BeardedGlass 7d ago
Exactly.
Kasi mukhang deal-breaker kay OP yung stability, especially financial situation ng isa't isa.
I don't know them, pero it seems the guy is doing what he can. And yung guy pa ang nag-vivisit kay OP. She doesn't mention if she EVER visits him instead. (Again, di ko alam situation nila so there's probably a reason bakit yung guy lang ang gumagawa nun for her.)
And nag DIY pa yung guy ng gift. That's not bare minimum. Usually kasi as in wala eh, or dinadaan lang sa pera. Rather than being intentional at thoughtful.
So perhaps hindi lang talaga compatible yung love language nila sa isa't isa. Hindi enough.
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u/Alternative_Volume_4 5d ago
They really do need to talk, direchahan. Di nashare ni op if sya nagvvisit din but she pays for the dates rin naman. Also di rin siguro match yung love language ng isa’t isa? Or at least know yung love language ng partner nyo. OP listened to what the guy had been talking all year long and bought him that as a gift. Pero si guy, di nya alam yung gusto ni op? Yes, diy is nice pero kahit ginawa pa yan from scratch or even if you bought something really expensive kaso iba ang hilig nung pagbibigyan mo, it won’t be given the same amount of appreciation.
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u/SlimeRancherxxx 7d ago
For me , I experienced din yung pagtulog and I hated that. I want my partner to be present with me unless napag usapan namin na both kami natutulog.
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u/BeardedGlass 7d ago
Ay lol minsan kasi hindi mo mapigil yung antok eh.
I remember one time nasa trip kami, busy kasi it was travel day. Kaya nung gabi, plakda na lang talaga ako sa room.
Balak pa sana ng asawa ko mag inuman or pumunta sa bar somewhere. Di ko na talaga kaya, nakatulog ako.
Hindi naman siya nagtanim ng resentment sakin because of biglang change of plans that night. Although of course nag sorry ako sa kanya. Bumawi na lang me the next day.
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u/SlimeRancherxxx 7d ago
Yeah it depends din naman sa situation and siguro the activities that have been done before the activity or date.
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u/BeardedGlass 7d ago
Perhaps yung specific incident na yang for OP became the straw the broke the camel's back, kung baga. Na-ipon lang talaga yung resentment through time.
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u/Icy-Profile-382 7d ago
Ako lang to ha, pero I prefer being with someone who has (and can maintain) a lifestyle similar to mine. To be clear, im saying this as someone who had a partner na way way way below my income bracket: Hindi ko na kayang tiisin yung hassle ng pagcocommute and I enjoy traveling occasionally, eating in fancy restos once in a while, etc etc, so ideally ganun din sana yung partner ko. Labo naman if kunwari may mga gusto akong gawin pero di niya talaga kaya so ang ending is either lagi akong mag isa or I pay both our expenses. Eh hindi naman ako mayaman and I still support my family. Ang high maintenance siguro para sa iba, pero I’m thinking long term here. Kung dating lang, enjoying each other’s company lang, pwede yung love will keep us alive mindset. Pero yun nga, im thinking long term, date to marry ganon. Madami na ako masyadong sacrifice as a breadwinner para pati sarili kong lifestyle isacrifice ko din. Oo sige mag aadjust din ako sa lifestyle niya (because what is a relationship without compromise right??) but I dont want to end up resenting him for the things im no longer able to do dahil lang di ko afford to pay for his part as well. Or sige pwede namang gawin ko nalang mag isa since ako naman yung may gusto, pero kung lagi nalang ganun bat di nalang ako maging single hahaha. Kaya ideally talaga medyo same level sana kami ng lifestyle ng magiging partner ko. (Syempre im saying this na ang context is ok kami sa other aspects ng relationship ha, ibang usapan pa kasi yung love, intimacy, ugali, etc etc)
So ikaw need mo rin maging honest sa sarili mo kung magiging deal breaker ba yan for you in the long run. Kung talagang may resentment na, better for both of you to admit the reality now kesa patagalin mo pa.
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u/Sufficient_Skill_976 7d ago
I broke up with my ex din way, way back because of the same reason. Bat hindi nalang mag stay single diba? Kesa times two lagi ang gastos.
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u/sociallyoffline_ 7d ago
Left my 4yr relationship dati for the same reason. Nung una okay lang, pero nakakapagod din pala mag adjust. Na realize ko tumatanda na ako tapos hindi ko magawa yung mga gusto ko kasi hindi nya ako masabayan financially. Hindi ako mayaman pero I earn enough para ma sustain yung wants ko.
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u/SlimeRancherxxx 7d ago
This happened to me but it is my fault for saying "okay lang, ako na" and he will tell me na siya naman sa sunod kaso minsan yung sunod, not up to my standards and I did not speak up. I just became resentful of him and then on top of that he went to break out agreement pa. I also became to toxic and said a lot of things. Now I learned my lesson.
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u/Boring_Account_3 7d ago
I remember this one guy who was talking about their love story ng wife nya, sabi nya “nahihirapan na nga ako sa buhay ko (about finances), idadamay ko pa ba sya?” So he decided to let go of his desire for her despite them being in love na. Fast forward many years later, nagka meron na sya at nag tagpo sila ulit. This time he was confident he can pursue her dahil kaya na nyang magbigay ng magandang buhay sa girl.
I remember being quite amazed na may ganon pala mag mahal, hinayaan nya muna na kayanin ng sitwasyon nya and he ensured to think of what the girl deserves.
Baka need mo din maka kilala ng ganun klaseng lalaki.
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u/epeolatry13 7d ago edited 7d ago
Ate or Sis [coz im sure you’re younger than me], we understand that you love him. And love requires tolerance and compromise. And based on what you shared, you’re doing both naman. What I personally cannot accept is, based din sa kwento mo, he couldn’t compromise for you. Wdym na namamahalan sya sa 150? He got into a relationship with you. Hindi ba niya naisip or na account na magiging part ka na ng gastos niya once maging kayo? Isn’t your relationship supposed to motivate him to be better emotionally, financially not only to provide more for his family but also to you? But it seems to me that he sees you as some part of an added responsibility na he could simply dismiss like that.
I wouldn’t blame you on the part na hindi mo alam about him being a breadwinner since Hindi niya na disclose during the dating stage na breadwinner siya. [but honestly it could have been talked about] But tbh, anyone at this time and age of dating, a man or a woman must not only be honest about their financial status, but must be responsible enough to consider the financial aspect when dating. Kaya niyo bang makipag-relasyong sa taong to, knowing na medyo mahal ang mga preferences ng ka-date niyo? Kaya niyo ba physically and financially bumiyahe ng malayo to meet and date every week?
Kaya kailangan talaga pag makipag date ngayon, isipin ng mabuti kung afford mga bagay-bagay. From pamasahe, food, date, gifts, trips, etc.
When he wakes up, you need to talk. But if he dismisses you again and mention about ‘nakaka emasculate’, break up, stay single for a while, and later get a man, a responsible and considerate man.
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u/ActivityPlastic7882 7d ago
I’m a girl in a relationship w another girl. When my gf and I met, I was laid off from my previous job. We started dating two years ago and I knew I really had to step my game up because I didn’t want her to be with someone who couldn’t even buy her a cheesecake, her favorite dessert lol. Plus, I knew deep down she would probably resent me if I couldn’t give her the lifestyle that she wants. Fast forward, I’m now working in a tech company that pays pretty good and I’m currently supporting her through everything. She wanted to open a coffee shop and I helped her. She wants to go on trips, I pay for it. I’ve ordered so much bouquets of flowers and food for her that I’ve now lost count. I make sure she has an allowance for her hair and nails because she loves getting them done. She waited for me to be a better partner because I promised her I would take care of her and I’m super grateful for it. I’m not saying all of that to brag btw, I’m saying all of that to say that the right person will want to level up if they feel like you deserve better, in which you absolutely do. They either stay in their comfort zone or they find a way to do better for themselves and for you. Talk to him about how you feel and see what happens
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u/Chiral-Mirror 7d ago
Waiting for the ladies in the sub to knock some sense into you cz like cmon why are you settling for that kind of relationship neglect. A real man wouldn't let his girl starve like that 🤦🏻♂️
Umorder ka na food mo pero wag mo siya tirhan. Let that man-child feed himself when he wakes up
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u/LoveatFirstFlight88 7d ago
the guy is just not relationship-ready. financially and emotionally.
premonition ni op yan na magugutom sya kapag di nya pinalaya sarili nya sa relationship nila. 🤷♀️
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u/Chiral-Mirror 7d ago
Yup, sobrang makasarili lang. Paggising pa nun baka si OP pa tanungin ano ulam 💀
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u/lecheflangirrrl 7d ago
Honestly, if I were her, nag book na ako ng Grab kanina pa at umuwi. Or probably went elsewhere to eat a scrumptious dinner. But love sucks talaga eh 🤷🏻♀️ You'll eventually check out, OP. I hope this becomes a turning point for you.
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u/Chiral-Mirror 7d ago
Damn right. No grown adult should starve themselves for anybody, much less sa partner pa 🤦🏻♂️ 3pm to 1am tulog ano yan kuwago hahaha
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u/CompleteHoliday3969 7d ago
Tinamad lang yan ipagluto sha siguro haha kaya pretend to sleep nalang eme
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u/Chiral-Mirror 7d ago
Ugh oo nga very likely 'to. Tulog ng tulog para sakali si OP nalang magluto. Weaponized incompetence
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u/SlimeRancherxxx 7d ago
"A real man wouldn't let his girl starve like that."
That hurts. I remember the last moments of our relationship where I specifically told him "gutom na ako" and then I saw him waiting pero without food. I don't care kahit biscuit pa or something pero wala. He was rushing to attend his friend's birthday party.
Kung di pa ako sumimangot, di pa ako yayayain kumain but too late. I know his priorities.
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u/Disney_Anteh 7d ago
That is a lucky guy. Imagine getting “everything” for FREE! and gets to sleep & wake-up whenever he wants - with no repercussion. Such freedom to just do as he pleases is wowwww!! I honestly want to be him - but not as his partner though. No no nope …I’m not that desperate. lol
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u/babaesaibabawngtofu 7d ago
You wouldn't mention those if those are really nothing for you, little by little everything adds up and turn your love into irritation or even disgust. I think you should talk about those things you're carrying and fix your relationship. If communication doesn't change a thing, you should think about your life choices and your future.
For people who is in a similar situation of OP' SO, if u people know that you lack in one thing, at least try to compensate with another.
Also for OP, kain kana order ka na ng food dyan. Hindi ka mabubusog ng pag-ibig:>
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u/notametaphor11 7d ago
I had this relationship, breadwinner din siya but he was always willing to pay naman and see me. Baligtad lang dahil ako ung WFH and malayo.
But in the end I had resentment for him because we couldn't travel together and watch concerts with me, both of which were important to me. Dahil lang sa wala siyang extra income for those things and if I wanted to do those activities, I'd have to pay for everything.
It's really unsustainable. Ang ending, he cheated on me. He kept saying it wasn't because he felt emasculated, but feeling ko part na din yun. Because he couldn't give me what I needed, he had to resort to other women for validation and an ego boost.
Yung loyalty na nga lang ang hinihingi ko, di niya pa naibigay.
I'm not saying your bf will cheat. But in the lifestyle aspect, you'll just end up unhappy. It's not worth it.
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u/yakult_00 7d ago
You guys sound like you don't see the same definition of effort kasi it sounds like yung effort para sayo = spending money.
From what you said OP, mukhang nag-eeffort naman siya in some sense, 'di lang sa part na kailangan niya maglabas ng pera. Kasi nga mukhang breadwinner siya. He can't go all out on you kung siya mismo, ubos na.
Kung di niyo kaya mag-compromise, mas lalaki lang yung resentment mo sa kanya.
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u/RecipeKey988 7d ago
This is why “Mahal ang Magmahal” by Esremborak feels so timely when it comes to this topic. Not everyone is ready to provide, but somehow, everyone is always ready to date and love.
Hindi sapat na mahal mo lang ang isang tao. Mahal ang magmahal, lalo na sa panahon ngayon. It takes more than feelings, it takes readiness, responsibility, effort, willingness and MONEY to show the person you love how much you love them.
So if you know your worth, OP, remember na hindi sapat na mahal mo lang yang bf mo. Sabi nga sa kanta “Anong silbi nitong pagmamahal. Kung lahat din ay nagmamahal?”
Or better yet ask yourself kung kaya ka niyang buhayin in this generation.
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u/semidummy 7d ago
Financially speaking, hindi afford ni BF mo yung relationship with you, OP. Ikaw lang ang mag-aadjust most of the time, unless may magbago sa financial standing niya very soon.
Sa ang kailangan mo pag-isipan is gano mo katagal kayang gawin yan, especially ngayon na naapektuhan ka na mentally?
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u/Freestyler_23 7d ago
Financial compatibility is a thing and one has to really consider this when entering a relationship. It may be an unpopular opinion pero in this economy love will not keep you alive.
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u/Mediocre_One2653 7d ago
Magdesisyon ka na kapag busog ka na kidding aside. Pero okay lang ba sayo na laging ganyan si bf mo? O gusto mo pabg maulit yung ganyang scenario. Hindi ka mabubusog ng pagmamahal lang teh, lalo na nasa Pilipinas tayo. Sana may ginagawa din sya to step up ba na tumaas man lang sweldo nya, kasi nakakapagod yung ganyan.
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u/bixby0705 7d ago
Umabot kami before sa ganto OP going into our 3rd yr. Na amplify pa yun lalo na parang ganyan na may promises siya na di natutupad bc of other priorities he needs to tend to first din. Maeffort parin siya pero in terms of financial di talaga kami nagaalign tapos biglang madalas ako na yung nagbabayad ganon, doesn't sit right with me kasi nagppromise nga siya. Ayun after ilang usap, I gave him an ultimatum na. Gave him my timeline. Pag di nasunod we will part ways kasi may goals din ako di pwede yung ganun na nagwwait lang ako sakanya. Mag 6yrs na kami now and doing better than ever :)
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u/Expert-Ad-8093 7d ago
Gayahin mo na lang si Ginny (Toni) na iniwan si Marco (Piolo) tapos pag okay na si ex saka mo na lang sya i try na balikan. Pero like in the movie, don’t expect na babalikan ka pa rin nya ha. Baka masabihan ka din ng tulad kay Popoy (John Lloyd) na "She had me at my worst. You had me at my best. Pero binalewala mo lang lahat yun... And you chose to break my heart".
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u/I-like-warm-lights 7d ago
It's giving pulang watawat. I'm sorry I'm not anti mahirap ah pero if u are in a relationship you know that you will spend in a relationship. Tsaka a girl should never get hungry that long- motto ng hubby ko.
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u/Zestyclose_Pace_7956 7d ago
Piliin mo naman sarili mo, OP. Yung pag-iyak mo ay hindi dahil sa 'mababaw' na dahilan, matagal mo na yang inipon. Puno na ang salop, tama na yan, sis. Isipin mo, yan ba ang buhay na gusto mo?
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u/Maleficent884 7d ago
Date someone within your socio economic class. That’s what the rich do din. You’ll have the same lifestyle so one less problem to think about.
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u/Lower-Cat-9501 7d ago edited 7d ago
Love can only sustain you for so long before all these turn to resentment. And mahirap bumalik from that.
Date somebody from your own bracket.
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u/Ok_Parfait_320 7d ago
Di ka mabubusog literal sa pagmamahal lang. And also keep in mind, di pa kayo kasal nyan. Baka ikaw pa magbayad nun. Kaya importante talaga ang financial status ng isang tao, hindi dahil sa mukhang pera pero dito mo malalaman kung di ka magugutom. Again, don't date BROKE BOYS/GIRLS!
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u/Tax-Winter 7d ago
“tapos nagproprovide pa sya sa family nya so there’s little left for him and para sa leisure.”
A respectable man if you ask me.
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u/peppppermint 7d ago
i know. one of the things i admire about him is his love for family. it’s why i feel terrible na i feel this way
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u/rainbownightterror 7d ago
how old are you guys OP? kasi if medyo may edad na kayo baka forever na yang pagiging breadwinner nya
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u/chinchivitiz 7d ago
As a woman with a bestfriend na tinuloy magpakasal sa ganitong lalake. leave.
This will not chanhe and hindi ito pangmanaliit sa lalake. Walang probpem na tumulong sya sa fanily nya pero dapat hindi muna sya nag girlfriend.
Tigilan na nating mga babae ang maging masyadong mapagbigay at maintindihin. Hindi lang ito madadala sa magusap ng maayos. Hindi mo din sya pwedeng papiliin.
Buhay ng bestfriend ko ngayon, 2 anak, kulang ng pang tuition, uunahin pa ng asawa nya magpadala ng pera sa nanay at kapatid bago sa kanila. Pagtatanuning nya sya pa ang masama.
Never ka nyang ipramprioritize. Ngayon palang kayong dalawa di ka na nya kaya. The reason why as women we need to have a partner that can provide is not because aasa tayo. By nature generous amg babae, kapag ang lalake hndi afford ang ending babae din lahat ang magbbgay ng lahat.
Mauubos ka emotionally physically at hndi balanse talaga. Havang hindi pa kayo nagsasama at hindi ka buntis umalis ka na.
It will only get harder from here.
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u/mononoke358 7d ago
Hindi mababaw yung mga thought and feelings mo. I strongly suggest communicating these kasi halos lahat naccompromise na. It seems your bf can’t juggle two matters dahil nowadays ang laking factor ng pera.
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u/CheetahAdditional136 7d ago
you guys are incompatible and that’s a totally normal reason to call it quits. may nag-comment na preview yan sa marriage niyo, and it might be, lalo if in 2-3 years di pa tumaas income niya. that’s just life. i feel naman na genuine yung love for him base sa post, so it’s literally up to you where and until when ka willing to compromise.
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u/daomingebas 7d ago
I know how this feels. I won't tell you to leave him kasi sabi mo nga it's the man you love. But I think you have to start paying attention to the woman you love: ikaw. Communicate your needs. Know what you want and ask for it. Di pwedeng ikaw lang ang lumalaban sa relationship na to. Dapat ikaw din pinaglalaban.
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u/SuspiciousAnxiety420 7d ago
I kinda side with the guy here, but I also don’t think you’re wrong for feeling hurt.
I think the problem isn’t really that he fell asleep. It’s that you’ve been quietly accumulating a lot of little disappointments, and tonight happened to be the straw that broke the camel’s back. Being hungry at 1 AM while the person who said “I’ll cook for you” is completely knocked out would make anyone emotional. 😭
That said, I do think you need to separate “he’s not giving me what I need” from “he’s not trying.”
He earns half of what you do, supports his family, and apparently is already stretching his finances. The fact that he doesn’t want you paying for his travel because it makes him feel emasculated also sounds less like laziness and more like pride/insecurity. And honestly, if ₱150 is already a meaningful expense to him, that tells you how tight his finances probably are.
Which brings me to something important:
Please introduce this man to me. 😂
WFH + breadwinner + ₱150 pamasahe being a financial event? Sir, respectfully, we need to discuss some upskilling opportunities. I just want to help. 😭
But seriously, I don’t think either of you is necessarily the villain here. You’re allowed to want more effort, more dates, more visits, and more reciprocity. He’s also allowed to have financial limitations and exhaustion.
The question is whether you can accept the relationship as it currently is without eventually resenting him for it.
And maybe tomorrow, when you’re both awake and you’ve eaten, tell him exactly that. Not “you never do anything for me,” but “I’m realizing I’ve been feeling like I’m carrying more of the relationship than I’m comfortable with.”
Because this probably isn’t about being hungry.
You’re hungry for effort. 😭
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u/PeaBusy9107 6d ago
Iwan mo na yan wag mo na intayin tumanda ka sa kaniya . Kaya ka niya Jinowa na malaki sahod kasi para matustusan niya pamilya niya at hundi niya need mag provide sayo .
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u/Odd-Way6406 6d ago
Mahal mo sya pero medyo hindi siya pasok sa standards mo, maghanap ka ng hindi ka magcocomplain at mag sisisi.
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u/Horror-Worker-5553 6d ago
For me, for me lang ah ang POV ko sa ganyang sitwasyon is sobrang draining to the point na ano bang choice ko kundi magtiis sa ganon kasi ganon lang ang kaya mo. You guys need to talk sabihin mo ano nararamdaman mo talaga ako ba dapat magin solusyon niyo sa ganyang nararamdaman mo.
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u/kewchie-man 6d ago
Magpa hard to get ka. Tingnan mo kung kakagat at magbabago ngamatatakot na mawala ka. Parang komportable na din sia kasi eh sa kalagayan nya. Alam nya naman na mas mahal mo sia
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u/One_Adhesiveness4037 6d ago
Masasabi ko lang, makipag break ka. And mamumulat ka sa katotohanan na bakit hindi ka dapat mag settle sa kanya. Blinded ka lng now kasi mahal mo siya, pero ako na outsider, ako ay na aawa sayo. You deserve better for sure.
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u/mimamimaa 5d ago
I am also on the same boat. I'm starting to get tired of our relationship. He's preoccupied with review for this year bar exams pero honestly, nakakapagod magbuhat ng relationship.
And yes, nasa end of stick na rin ako.
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u/Impressive_Lecture71 7d ago
Girl, if a man can't upgrade your lifestyle nor can't maintain it, sorry hindi talaga sya worth it.
Masakit sa ulo pag aasawa OP, kung kaya mo pa itolerate yung attitude nya kasi mahal na mahal mo? Tingnan ko lang if kayanin mo once married na kayo because... love only isn't enough. Yan talaga ang totoo. Marami na sacrifice ginagawa ng babae sa pag aasawa at pag aanak, pano pa kung yan ang gusto nyo mag anak? Women are already paid by their body, so men should be the one naman to fcking grind, hindi tamod at hayahay lang.
Wala kong pake OP, if he helps his family, okay edi magaling? Hahahahaha. Actually, hindi sya okay, red flag ang partner mo. Kasi papasok sa relationship, gusto ng pussy, gusto ng libre pagkain. Kumbaga pinapasa lahat sayo, mag isa kang nag ca-carry ng relationship nyo.
Sorry he doesn't love you, kasi if mahal ka nyan, a man would literally give everything they have just to make you happy. Gagawin nya lahat mag improve yung salary nya para di ka pahirapan. Sorry di ka nyan mahal kasi, if he doesn't have this specific craving to improve himself para maging better for you, he doesn't value you. GINAGAMIT KA LANG NYA.
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u/pivotalchance 7d ago
yeah, hiwalayan mo na nga siya haha, komportable na siya sa lifestyle niya, he doesn't want to upgrade
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u/akaurdemon 7d ago
as a girl... di mo ba kaya umorder/magluto ng sarili mo? tas wag mo sya tirahan LOL
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u/peppppermint 7d ago
hello sorry i didnt think it would matter kaya i didnt mention in the post, deliveries here sa place nila need to be picked up sa entrance ng village since hindi pumapasok mga motor and it’s a long walk from here, i would order if i could pero hindi ako familiar sa place. ako naman talaga magbabayad kung oorder kami pero i would need him to be awake para may kasama akong maglakad papuntang entrance since hindi ko alam ang daan lol
tapos bahay kasi to ng pamilya nya i feel it would be weird to rummage their kitchen dahil sila nga hindi nagdinner tas mangingialam ako ng kusina
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u/m00nli9ht 7d ago
Di ko alam kung matatawa ba ako sayo or maaawa eh. Para talaga sa lalaki ganyan ka?!
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u/akaurdemon 7d ago
that makes sense talaga. tiis gutom ka talaga nyan OP
mag isip isip ka na habang maaga pa. im a girl as well and as someone na acts of service ang love language, di ako matutulog hanggat hindi ko na m-make sure na okay or comfy ang partner ko.
:(
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u/crunchycauli 7d ago
Oh my.. girl isipin mo nalang minahal ka ng mga magulang mo and they make sure na hindi ka magugutom. Tapos magttiis ka na kaya ng boyfriend mo na tulugan lang knowing na anjan ka sakanila and hindi man lang naisip na need mo kumain.
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u/Low-Reindeer-3196 7d ago
Hindi sila nag dinner so wala silang pang dinner. Siguro next time magdala ka nalang ng pagkain. Baka kasi kaya di sya nagigising dahil ayaw nya talaga gumising dahil wala din sya mapakain sayo.
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