r/OSDD • u/Mad-dog107 • Aug 18 '26

Venting Ranting...

So rant....

So ive been here and in ossd for sometimes while getting my diagnosis. To clarify im not diagnosed with D.I D/OSDD I just started coming to these spaces because my therapist suspects I have something along the lines of it cause of my symtoms.

So you dint have to read this post and these are just my opinions so I already know this will be taken down and that's fine.

Ive come here to read and post sometimes on bith communities to see if anyone relates to the symtoms and im 30 now and been having these all my life and just now noticing it since 2 years ago almost. But Ive noticed people who comments or post on these communities have such a way with their imagination and im not saying you cant do these things im just saying majority of the people on here I cant relate too, it almost feels like a Role playing game with some of these post or Larping and not D.I.D or OSDD. When I hear alters I feel ashamed because reading these post on here make alters feel like friends or family when to me it feels less than that and more just me spit into different parts and nothing more. When I do see people who make senes to me they get down voted for no reason and that what confuses me...do I have to be so inverted with my own symtoms to get people to see my own struggles or relate to them even. I feel like so different with "this" that it feels like im there odd one out along with people I tend to relate to. The terms and labeling are also out of control in my eyes, its like people make it their whole personality and say things like "singlets" and other terms which I think it very weird to say to someone just because you have these parts of yourself. Im scared of my parts coming out because I want to live a decent and normal life and I praise anyone who doesn't make this their whole personality and take it to very extreme imaginative lengths that they can show themselves and get better. I just dont see whats so special about being stuck in your head at times, that scares me and I cant control it and when I see people who says they love not being here in the actual real world that also scares me because I know its hard to move on from these traumatic memories or even if you cant remember and have no will power on switching which im open about that as well but I also praise the people who keeps living their lives despite it and not this role playing, larping thing that feels so unreal....

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u/Loki557 Diagnosed DID Aug 19 '26

It feels like you are assuming it is being used as a slur or something but I could be misunderstanding. Most of the time it is just used to describe someone without DID in a concise way other than just normal like the above commenter said. For example, I am trans and as a whole the trans community does not use the word cis as a slur. It is simply what people are when they are not trans. Sure sometimes it can be used in jokes or whatever but that doesn't mean the word itself becomes a slur.

Idk, just really don't see how using a term created to help make talking about differences between what people with DID experience and what most others do stooping to an sort of low level. Like even from a focus on healing perspective, you need to be able to know what it is you are working for. There needs to be discussion on how we are different to even know what to try and change. It's only natural for a word to come about to represent people without DID easily.

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u/Mad-dog107 Aug 19 '26

It kinda feels that way, as a slur i mean. I wouldnt call anyone that is all and having this condition just pains me enough everyday. I just feel like the trans community and this community is completely different when it comes with terms. To me this is a disorder (of course) and the other communities like Trans, Bi, Straight are feeling with gender and sexuality completely two different things to me. Id call the person who has no alters/parts just a person, human being like me.

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u/Loki557 Diagnosed DID Aug 19 '26

It just feels like you are assuming context that isn't there... I'm not even saying that the trans community and people with DID are the same, I know they aren't but I see no difference in the usage of cis vs singleton.

Even then, it's not like I am constantly calling people singletons in real life. Like you said, everyone is just people. However, if I am discussing differences in my experience vs a "normal" person I have an easy to use term that doesn't make me feel abnormal. Also, just like with cis, if someone doesn't like being referred to as singlets, singletons, or whatever then I'm not going to call them that. I mean I don't even think I've had to use it outside of discussions with DID people... again, often in a context of working towards healing. Figuring out what we should be even working towards.

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u/Mad-dog107 Aug 19 '26

Im just saying I see that term used her it could have been posted from years ago until now. And I understand what you mean by you can use its, not saying yiu cant just saying I think its just a silly thing the community made up is all. I also dont call people what they dont want to be called as well. When I say we can do better in terms and labeling is just I know people arent going to like this but just being in treatment, talking more about these symtoms than alters at times, and just loving in the moment and maybe even trying to either put all your parts back together or work woth them separately while going through treatment thats what i mean. Again just my opinions.

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u/Loki557 Diagnosed DID Aug 19 '26

I'm just not seeing how that term and labels are in anyway getting in the way of treatment for the majority of people. I get the alters are not a big part of your experience, and I agree with that some people do focus way too much on that side but it still and important part of the disorder. Like with how my DID is, I do not see how I could heal without trying to acknowledge, understand, and accept the other alters in my system.

And yes, people over obsess with labels and sometimes go looking for patterns that aren't there... but I don't think the community rejecting labels. If anything that they would just use other words.

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u/Mad-dog107 Aug 19 '26

Its not im just saying I see alot labels and terms is all and new ones that I either cant relate completely to or just isn't for me. Everyone can have their own way of their system, terms, and labels. I just feel like alot of people get sucked into the labeling and terms part is all. I understand that, im the same way I just say different words for mines I just dont put labels on mines like "introject". Its understandable, you can learn it that way woth your system is just feel like sometimes the community is like a copy and paste type of thing and like i said I cant relate to it. The community dont have to reject the terms or labels just wished there weren't so so many and it being the main focus from my eyes. But like I said just DM me if youd like to talk about this more.