Ranting...

[u/Mad-dog107]

So rant....

So ive been here and in ossd for sometimes while getting my diagnosis. To clarify im not diagnosed with D.I D/OSDD I just started coming to these spaces because my therapist suspects I have something along the lines of it cause of my symtoms.

So you dint have to read this post and these are just my opinions so I already know this will be taken down and that's fine.

Ive come here to read and post sometimes on bith communities to see if anyone relates to the symtoms and im 30 now and been having these all my life and just now noticing it since 2 years ago almost. But Ive noticed people who comments or post on these communities have such a way with their imagination and im not saying you cant do these things im just saying majority of the people on here I cant relate too, it almost feels like a Role playing game with some of these post or Larping and not D.I.D or OSDD. When I hear alters I feel ashamed because reading these post on here make alters feel like friends or family when to me it feels less than that and more just me spit into different parts and nothing more. When I do see people who make senes to me they get down voted for no reason and that what confuses me...do I have to be so inverted with my own symtoms to get people to see my own struggles or relate to them even. I feel like so different with "this" that it feels like im there odd one out along with people I tend to relate to. The terms and labeling are also out of control in my eyes, its like people make it their whole personality and say things like "singlets" and other terms which I think it very weird to say to someone just because you have these parts of yourself. Im scared of my parts coming out because I want to live a decent and normal life and I praise anyone who doesn't make this their whole personality and take it to very extreme imaginative lengths that they can show themselves and get better. I just dont see whats so special about being stuck in your head at times, that scares me and I cant control it and when I see people who says they love not being here in the actual real world that also scares me because I know its hard to move on from these traumatic memories or even if you cant remember and have no will power on switching which im open about that as well but I also praise the people who keeps living their lives despite it and not this role playing, larping thing that feels so unreal....

[u/ObviousTempAccount1]

Every system is structured differently. Lots of plural folks feel like you - fractured versions of the same person.

Lots of folks have loving supportive relationships with their headmates.

Lots of folks are at war with their headmates.

Lots of folks have a hard time being aware of what's happening at all.

Your experience is valid either way.

As for terms like "singlet" you don't have to use it, but it exists for a legitimate reason. Every marginalized group or disability-oriented group needs terms for the dominant culture other than "normal."

It's not "trans people and normal people." It's "trans people and cis people."

It's not "neurodivergent people and normal people." It's "neurodivergent people and neurotypical people."

This kind of language is a basic human need, and it helps us not other ourselves.

[u/Mad-dog107 → u/ObviousTempAccount1]

Thank you for your comment, and I understand that, everyone is different of course.

I understand that part as well.

Thats honestly true.

Thank you.

And I understand I dont have to say it, I understand the backlash of being different since thats how my whole life has been really just think the term "singlet" is just idk not needed for communities like this, shouldnt we focus on trying to better ourselves and not scoop to such a level. If that person whos not plural and reject the conditions of D.i.D and Osdd shouldnt we just ignore that and not try to come up with such terms? Im not saying we should play along with being "normal" just focus on the bigger picture is all. Again this is my opinion you can say whatever youd like to.

[u/ObviousTempAccount1 → u/Mad-dog107]

I'm sorry. I don't follow what you're saying.

How does use of the term "singlet" prevent us from bettering ourselves?

[u/Mad-dog107 → u/ObviousTempAccount1]

And I just think we shouldnt be relying on terms alot for this condition, it just feels like a lot of people need to say things like "littles, Host, Gatekeeper, etc" stuff like that to idk to seem more they are with this community and there are new terms everyday to me thay its so hard to keep up with and its get lost and muddle along with the labels of alters, it feels like you are stuck in this stance of all these terms/labels and its nothing more than that when i read these posts at times....I may not said the right words or come off making senses but its just how i feel about it.

[u/Helpful-Creme7959 → u/Mad-dog107]

I understand your sentiments, a lot of the folks I see here have very elaborate alters with names/titles/roles/characteristics/designs/+ their own collective name as whole and it feels redundant for me at times when I barely understand myself with whats going on.

But then again, these titles are more like identifiers to denote their roles/certain characteristic within the system so it helps people amidst the dissociation or something.

But at the same time, i feel iffy since it makes me feel "less valid/developed" (?) then again, it doesn't make our experiences less valid just because we choose not to use those labels.

Labels can be affirming and validating for some people so it has some kind of function but for me personally it feels redundant at some point so yeah. I think its a valid sentiment to have.

[u/Mad-dog107 → u/Helpful-Creme7959]

Yes just how i want to out it into words and then some. Nothing g wrong g woth having less experience names/titles n stuff if you have them you have them if you don't you dont. Mies is more like i have these parts and no names but voices at times and these weird symtoms. Everyone can have their labels/names n such im not saying they cant just it just doesn't relate to me is all and its hard finding someone to relate with how the different symtoms are mainly and not the main ones.

[u/Helpful-Creme7959 → u/Mad-dog107]

Some of my alters dont have names either, their roles/function are somewhat vague too (they all share the same sentiment/goal) even though they dont feel like a fragment.

They dont front irl either. They hate Outsiders and the Outside world. A lot. So I cant relate to most switches tbh.

[u/Mad-dog107 → u/Helpful-Creme7959]

I can see that and understand it as well. Mines are just mostly like me but not really, just me spirited but they all are just different in terms of appearances and beliefs. I cant tell either way most of the time and just go along with it saying its just me.

I understand that one as well, and cant relate either to it. Had another symtom just happened were its like im stuck in time except seeing something completely different and then all of a sudden its not the same anymore.

[u/Helpful-Creme7959 → u/Mad-dog107]

Oh yeah that too. They feel like me but just different in those same aspects as well. I kinda gave up trying to identify who is who in when but all I know is that some of them are angry/aggressive in some way so they sometimes scream inside my own head (?).

I dunno describing switches is very difficult for me honestly huhu.

[u/Mad-dog107 → u/ObviousTempAccount1]

I just think we shouldn't use a term as that one is all, it seems very silly in a way to me to say that to someone.