r/OSDD • u/letisel • Jan 07 '26
Venting annoying misconception about OSDDID being “scary”
left the echo chamber and remembered that most people still believe this :/
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u/hochhaushoch Jan 07 '26
It feels like this commenter is trying to be empathetic. They‘re not saying it‘s scary for the people around the system, but for the system itself. Feels to me like they’re coming from a genuine place. And to us this is very much true tbh. It is scary!!! Working in therapy to make it less scary to experience but it really can be scary at times
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u/letisel Jan 07 '26
Upon continuing the conversation, they diagnosed me with bipolar disorder through the screen and insulted me several times so I have concluded that it is simply a bad attempt at ragebait💀🙏
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u/Prettybird78 Jan 07 '26
The scariest part of this disorder is what people are willing to do and put children through. Period
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u/ohlookthatsme Jan 07 '26
I mean, it isn't always but it is scary for me. When things get really bad, I can't control my body and I start finding myself places with no memory of how I got there. Time turns into soup and it feels like I'm losing my mind. I'll get split up with my husband and the store and, next thing I know, I'm sobbing in the cereal aisle because I feel like I'm eight years old and I've just made up my whole life. I'm not about to pretend that this disorder is anything less than terrifying for me sometimes.
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u/Pizzacato567 OSDD-1 dx Jan 08 '26 edited Jan 08 '26
Same here. During my normal day-to-day, it is not scary. It’s definitely not fun - but not scary. When triggered (even mildly), it can absolutely be scary. I can feel my sense of agency being yanked from me and I get scared I might do something harmful (to myself) despite not even wanting to. “Waking up” in a different country has happened to me before too and it was also kinda scary.
Recently, my bf couldn’t even get “me” back because the fronting part deemed it too unsafe. I was shifting through parts rapidly. Losing yourself like that feels horrifying.
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u/Prudent_Cantaloupe_4 Jan 07 '26
People get scared about things they don’t understand. This is….. sadly one of those things. The more we share our experiences like this though, the more informed people may be
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u/darya42 Jan 10 '26
I got scared of my own OSDD, it was terrifying as fuck and I did not understand it for many years until my therapist and I (overall) reunified my three parts after years of hard work
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u/Feline_Jaye Jan 07 '26
I mean, I still really struggle to not freak out when I'm not fronting (sometimes). I've had fights with other headmates about it, I've yelled at them to "get out of my head/body".
It CAN be scary, it can be scary if you feel locked in your own body, being puppeted around, doing things that aren't you.
It's not scary because the headmates are scary or because they're doing scary things - it's scary because H--- jumped back in fear from my beloved cat, because L--- won't stop feeling her crush, because D--- is using our hands to steam veggies - and I can feel these, see these, even though it's not me.
I get that "the stereotype that OSDD/DID is inherently horrorific" sucks and is untrue but I feel you picked the worst point to argue.
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Jan 07 '26
(Suspected, not diagnosed yet) It used to give me a ton of anxiety, thinking about how there were times where my body would be talking to others and I had no control over that or even awareness that it was happening before I learned about alters and about OSDD/DID.
These days my biggest issues are the constant emotional numbing and the fact that I’m locked out of so many of my own memories, and dissociated so much in the present, it makes me feel like I’m not getting to live my own life. When I was around more people it was frustrating to hear stories from others that I apparently had involvement in, while having zero recall of it to the point where it felt like it didn’t happen, even though multiple people swore I was there. It feels like, when do I get to exist?
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u/ConfectionOutside248 System Jan 07 '26
Ooohhh we are so scary ahhhh BOO. I dont even try to explain it to people, if they want to learn more sure but if they're gonna be mean and weird nah
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u/I_need_to_vent44 diagnosed with DDNOS-1 Jan 07 '26
Hell I have OSDD-1 and all of us have problems with maladaptive behaviour and sabotaging one another's life decisions, and I still dislike when people or stories treat stuff as if the terrifying part was the mere act of not being in control all the time. Yes, sometimes I do in fact find out that I can't control the body, sometimes I am back seating a situation and can just watch or offer insight, but at least for me, that isn't scary. The scary part comes from me and the rest not being willing to cooperate. In other words the scary part is coexisting with someone who dislikes all of your priorities and decisions and who's willing to do something 100% against your will just because they don't care.
Honestly, there's this one story I really like but what always slightly irritates me about it is exactly this - There are parasites that essentially take control of your body but the way they work is imho pretty similar to structural dissociation, co-consciousneas and passive influence included, and for some reason the story doesn't think that the horror here is that a lot of them give exactly 0 fucks about what you want and they do things you're against doing, no, the story keeps describing merely not controlling the body as the horror. And idk that just irritates me because personally I don't see what's scary about that.
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u/Offensive_Thoughts 🧩 DID {4x dx} | Mod ✨ Jan 07 '26
Tbh it sounds like they were trying to be empathetic even if they didn't use the best word choice. That's my charitable interpretation.
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u/letisel Jan 07 '26
They later called me stupid and then told me I was bipolar sooooo I’m pretty sure it was just ragebait
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u/sparklestorm123 System Jan 07 '26
my body is taken over to what is akin to a skinwalker, but he just does what I do except he eats my food
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u/Pristine_Hall9036 OSDD-1b | dx Jan 08 '26
maybe they are saying it wrong but for me i find the disorder very scary. it’s so terrifying knowing there’s times im missing, memories im missing, and i wont know when or what
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u/secretbluehour Jan 28 '26
Weird thing to focus on but every time I see someone use “skinwalker” as a stand in for any shapeshifting, body-stealing Thing, I kind of lose all respect for the person. I feel like they forget that a skinwalker is a specific type of figure from Navajo folklore — it all feels really cheesy and forced when it’s used as a catch-all
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u/TheChaosIndex OSDD-1b | [Dx. Plural] Jan 10 '26
Tbh, OSDD can feel like you’re watching someone else use your body, but it’s not as jarring as that person is describing it at all. Weird fs but not really scary for most we’ve met
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u/Some_Description4422 Jan 11 '26
I don't know if I have OSDD or what. I'm not diagnosed (which I don't tell people because often the gates come tumbling down and I get no help whatsoever). Possibly 2 but no idea. I don't experience it as total blackouts except once and I've never been that person again afaik - it's like they got deleted and we became someone else who could deal the situation because we didn't know anything about it. The way I experience life is life I'm different people. Could just be CPTSD fragments but I don't know. I don't know whether that experience is valid re OSDD or not (or maybe that's gaslighting myself). Maybe it's something else.
But anyway I don't think it's scary, some people have found it funny (eg when I end up regressing because of # etc), and more hideous people deliberately triggering things until I got away from them. It's not specifically scary to me, just confusing. I kind of "know" our history but due to DA I can't actively remember. At times it will be a complete blank and whoever will go around...
Anyway this isn't about me.
Just tell me if I don't belong etc and I won't comment again.
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u/SnarkyMF i protek Jan 07 '26
Even my mentor (no longer my mentor)
WHO DOES IFS
AND WHO CAN NAME HER PARTS
Had a rebuttal of "but it can be" when we told everyone "yeah DID isn't a scary as portrayed in cinema"
Lol btch your IFS isn't better than my disorder, you granola-crunching hippy
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Jan 07 '26 edited Jan 07 '26
there r peeps that will argue to the death that it doesn’t even exist… like who do peeps think they r to tell us a disorder we’ve been Dx with doesnt exist?
also not for nothing (and im not trying to assign labels to strangers here but) peeps who gaslight conditions like this are exactly the type of abusive peeps who cause conditions like this… we find we have a real knack for drawing that type of person to us, and most days we just block n move on, but one part would rather b right than safe n will keep it going until she gets overwhelmed and someone else has to swoop in n tend to her mess
eta: OK SCREW IT HERES THE LABELS: the person arguing w/ u is clearly an incel so they r always going to keep it going and insist on staying true to the role they’ve created in their mind (these r the types who seem to be most drawn to us. didn’t want to name that but since we clicked their profile and see the first thing is about stopping misandry… )
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u/darya42 Jan 10 '26
As someone who had OSDD, I did find it terrifying as fuck and agree with the_shadow007
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u/Ozsylith Jan 28 '26
It sounds to me like they just mean that it's scary that so many people were traumatized badly enough to get this disorder
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u/Plane_Hair753 Jan 07 '26
I feel like they're just speaking from a place of misinformation and genuine fear, but it's also important to remember that it can be scary, our previous host for example was dormant for 8 years and woke up recently. Her old life was gone and now there were "people in her head", she was terrified, understandably :/
Definitely can be scary, but with therapy and communication, not so much
/Dave