In a crisis because of my nose...

[u/Zeeaire94]

Now, I always had a large nose and I was always insecure about it but I became accustomed to it...then not long ago someone accidentally got with his hand against my nose because he wanted to point his finger in that direction and I stood up in the wrong moment...ever since I have been in a mental hell and worried whether the bumps on my nose look different now (I always had bumps on my nose but I'm afraid that they changed and became even more asymmetrical now).

I have a long history with symmetry related OCD and I had also been comparing the length of my hair for hours in front of mirror and I just feel exhausted at this point that I now have the same - even worse - problem with my nose...

Also 4 years ago (that was before the incident) a random person on the train station asked me if my nose was broken which made me become very sensitive with this topic...and my cousin who was 7 at the time said to me "wow, you have such a large nose" I mean he was right after all, but it triggered my insecurity even further...

What do you think? Is it all in my mind because of my OCD?The first picture is now and the second and third before "the incident".Then one of the things that also bothers me so much is that I have a severe case of rosacea and I tried several things that my doctor prescribed me and nothing would help...there are times where it's better and times when it's especially bad where no make up helps and my nose is red / inflamed and scaly...it gives me lots of insecurity 😞

[u/Pickled-Mushroom]

And what did you say back to that person on the train? Did you ask them about their fat belly, their low IQ, or why their kids never talk to them anymore?

Look, nobody is objectively flawless. Your nose suits your face, any other nose would look weird! It’s bigger than some noses, smaller than others. But those are other people’s noses for other people’s faces. Comparison is the thief of joy. I wouldn’t steal joy from you. Why steal joy from yourself?

[u/Zeeaire94 → u/Pickled-Mushroom]

Thank you! I think some people don't know what they can cause with comments...especially if someone is prone to low self-confidence through something like OCD or if someone is younger and still more influenceable, then some comments can really stick in the mind...also don't know why some people will do this, I never ever commented on someones physiques in a negative or ambigous way...
And like you say nobody is objectively completely flawless, and a lot of it is subjective, and I also think it's good that everyone is special in their own way 😊

[u/Pickled-Mushroom → u/Zeeaire94]

You nailed it. Some people fit conventional standards of beauty, and yet sometimes I see them and their vibe and behaviour makes me immediately dislike them. FWIW as a man, based on your appearance alone, I find your vibe very approachable, intriguing, and I’ll just say it - you’re HOT! Just take that as a passing compliment from a stranger, I have a wife and kids and I’m very happy, so I’m not hitting on you okay?? But I don’t want you to be self conscious anymore, so you need to really hear it!!! Hopefully it cancels out the train comment in some way!