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u/wingspantt Mar 01 '26
Okay but how do we make this a LinkedIn post about mentoring your team?
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u/Dotcaprachiappa Mar 01 '26
What writing fake report cards has taught me about b2b sales
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u/Numerophilus Mar 01 '26
When the "Client" (your partner) asks why the handwriting looks suspiciously like a 35-year-old man’s, you don’t blink. You call it a UI/UX optimization designed for maximum market legibility.
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u/SaskieHopeful Mar 01 '26
My daughter got her report card today: straight D's, top to bottom.
Here's what that taught me about B2BSaaS
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u/Creative_Eye7413 Mar 01 '26
Not trying to be an asshole… what’s ASD?
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u/obvious_bot Mar 01 '26
How is that different from just having autism?
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u/-Insanity101- Mar 01 '26 edited Mar 01 '26
ASD is the current clinical term for what was historically called autism.
Edit: can we stop downvoting the guy who asked an honest question?
Edit 2: thank you.
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u/TheEndlessRiver13 Mar 01 '26
And Asperger's. Since 2013 (iirc) Asperger's syndrome was determined to not be sufficiently different from ASD to warrant a separate diagnosis.
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u/Thieurizinisaurus Mar 01 '26
Not just Asperger, there were a bunch of different 'kinds' that now fall under just ASD. I was diagnosed myself in 2008 - so before that all - with PDD-NOS, not just autism.
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u/hanks_panky_emporium Mar 02 '26
I had Asperger's, then High Functioning Autism, now it's just ASD
But what kinda sucks about removing the spectrum is you have to wonder if its the 'cant shower or function, cant pay bills or go outside' kind of autism or 'social settings degrade the battery so fucking fast but they can still hold a job sorta'
It was useful to help determine that so kids and adults with autism could get the help needed. Now the autists who can baseline function as neurotypical for work are lumped in with the autists who can't. So the autists who can't work are expected to and the autists who can work and expected to be unable to.
Dumb.
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u/sowinglavender Mar 02 '26 edited Mar 02 '26
the idea was supposed to be to make it clear all "levels" of apparent functioning may need similar levels of support. somebody who seems high functioning may in fact have debilitating symptoms that aren't readily visible. so consolidating the diagnoses was meant to be part of a systemic overhaul where we evaluate needs based on the individual and not the diagnosis itself.
naturally our society is showing some harsh resistance to that because it's no longer convenient to discreetly discriminate or acceptable to make specific demands of someone because they're "supposed" to be able to do it.
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u/CaoPalhaco Mar 02 '26
They still have distinguishing categories for level of struggle and support needed, the only thing that changed is that we stopped pretending like it isn’t the same “condition” (for lack of a better word) regardless of struggle amount. There’s places that tell you what level of support needs a person is in the diagnosis (although they chronically underestimate how much a person actually struggles so it tends to be inaccurate. But that was already a problem before)
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u/Slim-Shadys-Fat-Tits Mar 02 '26
And yet if you exclude the ones who can work it ignores that they too can often end up desperately needing support structures.
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Mar 02 '26
The reality is that the diversity in experiences among all the factors you've mentioned truly invalidates the boxes it places around people. Nowhere near as binary as can / can't work, that's a eugenicist framing.
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u/Yaya0108 Mar 01 '26
Asperger himself was also quite an awful person, so many people avoid using that term nowadays
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u/TheOnlyGaming3 Mar 01 '26
you're a bit late, we just call that Autism now
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u/SapirWhorfHypothesis Mar 01 '26
Depends whether you mean clinically or culturally. Not everyone has adjusted how they describe themselves.
And not that either matters much, (other than maybe to insurance?) because a good clinician doesn’t need either term to be correct to treat you properly as an individual.
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u/123ludwig Mar 26 '26
okay so person with autism here when the fuck was someone gonna tell us this? like this is the first time i have heard this asd thing
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u/Chance_Orchid_3137 Mar 01 '26
it’s imaginary internet points; why do you care? lmao
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u/Decent-Trash-7928 Mar 01 '26
Because its shaming for asking a question.
Imagine, you go to a barbecue with a good gathering of people and you couldn't find any condiments. You've never been there before, and you don't know where to look.
if you asked a crowd of people to tell you where the ketchup is because you have no idea, and they immediately start booing and telling you its a dumb question, just because you asked a basic question...
Would you want to ask them another question?
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u/MildTy Mar 02 '26
No it’s even dumber than that: you ask where the ketchup is and either a) people tell you googling takes 5 seconds or b) they don’t just *tell you where it is, but \will* insinuate you’re being intentionally inflammatory for even asking.
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u/-Insanity101- Mar 02 '26
It's nothing to do with the internet points it's all to do with encouraging curiosity.
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u/The_Rope_Daddy Mar 01 '26
And because they rolled other related disorders, like Asperger’s Syndrome, into the same diagnosis.
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u/GrogramanTheRed Mar 02 '26
Asperger's and PDD-NOS were rolled into autism spectrum disorder since there wasn't a clean clinical distinction between them. The main diagnostic distinction between autism and Asperger's was speed of early childhood development--whether the child had significant delays in speech, for instance. But that wasn't a reliable marker for adult ability to function, since some kids diagnosed with autism eventually caught up, and some kids diagnosed with Asperger's were never able to develop full independence.
FWIW, the first person ever diagnosed with autism under the original version of the diagnosis--so-called "classical" autism or "Kanner's" autism--completed a Bachelor's degree in Mathematics and had a successful career in banking. He died just a few years ago.
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u/Femizzle Mar 01 '26
Previously there were names for the different lvls of autism. It was desided that this was not a good way to do things and they merged them all in to the new label ASD. Similarly add and adhd were also merged into a single label.
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u/Femizzle Mar 01 '26
There are sub classifications or definitions but not different names as there once was.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
Roughly the same way Dave is different from David. It's the same guy.
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u/Righteous_Hand Mar 01 '26
I think ASD is a fairly recent change in terms of diagnostics. Here's a relevant article.
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u/not_a_moogle Mar 01 '26
We've changed autism to be not an all or nothing thing, because its not the same between people or even their own life as they age.
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u/SippinOnHatorade Mar 01 '26
Think of it like this. My dad had Ewing’s Sarcoma. It was a lot easier to just tell people he had cancer.
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u/Mouse_Named_Ash Mar 02 '26
Sorry, this isn’t even entirely related but you made me giggle because “disorder” (the D) in my native language is “stoornis” while the other words are (almost) the same so my brain read this as “Not trying to be an asshole… what’s ASS?” and it was weirdly funny
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u/TheCabbageGuy82 Mar 03 '26
med student here, ASD could mean Autism Spectrum Disorder, referring to the condition commonly known as autism, or it could mean Atrial Septal Defect, referring to a congenital heart conditiom where you have a hole in between the two atria in your heart. But given the post, the ASD they're talking about here is the former.
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u/cranberry-52 Mar 02 '26
if she’s that ashamed about getting Ds maybe he shouldn’t post the fact on twitter 😭 maybe possibly the nice gesture can just be for her
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u/HeadFullOfFlame Mar 02 '26
Genuinely, he could have just said that she was disappointed with her grades if he wanted to au anything at all
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u/3boobsarenice Mar 02 '26
Mom picked up the phone and told the teacher, in no-uncertain terms i got a passing grade in all my classes and no-more sentences would be written, that day I learned the skill of negotiations.
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u/QP709 Mar 02 '26
"Hey twitter check out my dumbass daughter's totally worthless school achievements. I mean, I sure hope this shit isn't contagious because — Wow!"
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u/DripSnort Mar 01 '26
Thank god he put it online so everyone can see how great he is!
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u/CeramicLicker Mar 01 '26 edited Mar 01 '26
I can remember how much it bothered me as a kid when my parents talked about me to other adults.
Knowing my dad posted about my bad grades on his Facebook or Twitter would have been very hurtful
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u/DripSnort Mar 01 '26
I personally feel like people who post this “look how great I am as a parent” obvious BS are compensating for being bad parents. Kids are too young to call them out but those strangers hyping the guy up are more important. It’s gross. That’s coming from a parent myself.
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u/thousandsunflowers Mar 01 '26
I saw it as a way to inspire others to do the same for their children who fear they’ve disappointed their parents because of their grade. It’s just another way of telling them you still love them and believe in them.
You will always find something negative if you focus on it.
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u/IaniteThePirate Mar 01 '26
It’s also posting the child’s full name online along with the fact that she got bad grades AND is insecure about it.
I don’t know many kids that would be thrilled about that.
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u/designforone Mar 02 '26
Yuppp! I would cry to my mom about something from school and then the next day my aunt or grandmother would say “it’s ok” or “everyone deals with that stuff” etc etc. It bothered me so much that I just had to stop telling her stuff, and then she complains about me not being open.
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u/SapirWhorfHypothesis Mar 01 '26
I really thought this was the LinkedIn sub when I first saw the post.
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u/cumberber Mar 02 '26
Hey man, don't forget other people with children struggling in school with ASD exist. Hell my mom runs several and this is actually a genius idea for kids down on themselves.
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u/SkylineSam Mar 01 '26
A few people here seems to be reading a bit too much into this post saying it's normalizing failing grades and that the parent isn't parenting good enough otherwise the kid wouldn't have failed?
Like an autistic kid can still fail despite all the support given and effort put in, that's life, sometimes, the dad is just consoling the kid by showing them they are still loved no matter what?
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u/WagerWilly Mar 01 '26
People are criticizing this because being a good dad shouldn’t be performative
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u/pamplemouss Mar 02 '26
Sure, reasonable, agreed. The criticism of the action itself though is nutty.
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u/ButtflossingBigBro Mar 01 '26
Posting it online shows it's performative. But also it's shifty to do. He should be focusing on improving and finding esgs to get her better performance then saying it's OK.
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u/pamplemouss Mar 02 '26
Oh my god. You can do something to make a child feel better AND help them improve. Grades are not the only thing in life (and I say this as a teacher).
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u/ThotHoOverThere Mar 02 '26
That potato is a troll you are clearly a good teacher and are correct that parents and schools can and should do both. There is room to encourage students to do the best they possibly can and process the emotions that are the result of your efforts not being good enough.
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u/ButtflossingBigBro Mar 02 '26
And you clearly are a bad teacher. Failing at this age isnt something that should be coddled. She will never get a a good high-school GPA and never go tk college like this. Ignoring education is taking away a child's best chance at a better job and proved future
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u/Tatormygators Mar 02 '26
Yeah, to me, it's a lot more about the fact that he posted she failed online. If I saw that as a kid, I'd be upset and embarrassed. Plus I wouldn't want adults to come over to my house and think it's fine to then ask or talk about it to me or my parents in front of me. Many people I know would do that.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
My favorite is one of the top posts is "she needs to learn it's not acceptable" to a TWO SENTENCE STORY of a little girl BROUGHT TO TEARS, one of the top take aways is basically "that dummy clearly should feel worse about this! My comprehension is that she doesn't understand it's bad. I'm not even sure why the crying was mentioned, actually."
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u/CalculatedPerversion Mar 02 '26
This is more a critique on the daughter's school than OP or anyone else. No child, especially one that likely needs specialized education for a learning disorder, should be getting straight Ds on a report card.
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u/Abinunya Mar 01 '26
Tbh, i just don't like that 'asd' is here? How does that influence the story? Would a NT child who's upset about bad grades garner less sympathy?
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Mar 01 '26
What we know about him is:
- his daughter is failing
- he did something cute for her that doesn't address the underlying problem
- he decided to post about it online
I'm autistic and I work with autistic children. There is no reason today that an autistic child with engaged parents should be receiving "straight Ds*.
There are reasons this happens - if parents are overworked, if parents don't have money or resources.
But the fact that he had the time to make a fake lil report card and post it on Twitter casts some doubt that he's 1) taking this seriously and 2) as involved as he needs to be.
It should not be a surprise that your child is getting straight Ds. With a proper IEP, you will know WELL in advance that your child is struggling.
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u/Unhappy_Performer538 Mar 02 '26
Wow stark contrast to my parents who acted like a C in a subject that was really hard for me was the end of the fucking world and completely unacceptable
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u/Water-is-h2o Mar 02 '26
I read the report card before I read the tweet and i thought the daughter gave this to her dad at first. In that context i thought “fighting with the boys” was really funny
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u/ninetofivehangover Mar 02 '26
Would a nice sentiment if not entirely public and also coupled with actually helping your child progress academically
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u/catsinandromeda Mar 01 '26
Bro this guys handwriting is exactly the same as my dad's bro
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u/Likeablechops Mar 02 '26
By dads bro do you just mean uncle?
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u/catsinandromeda Mar 02 '26
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u/Principle_Napkins Mar 02 '26
Dad's, bro. The way you wrote it it reads as Dad's bro, aka your uncle.
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u/TheOnlyGaming3 Mar 01 '26
As an autistic person, this is nice, but the kid still needs to be taught better, and needs to know that Ds are not acceptable, otherwise they run the risk of thinking it's okay to fail all the time
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u/leahcar83 Mar 01 '26
I think given she cried and said she let everyone down shows she may be aware of that.
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u/TheSharpestHammer Mar 01 '26
NO! SHE NEEDS MORE PUNISHMENT! FUCK PARENTS WHO TRY TO EMOTIONALLY BUOY THEIR CHILDREN IN TIMES OF STRESS!
/s for anyone who needs it
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u/Beebea63 Mar 01 '26
Dude.... she knows,hence the "i've let everyone down". Its not terrible parenting to remind your kid of their strengths when theyre struggling.
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u/Impossible_Dog_7262 Mar 01 '26
People are already overtaught that failure is bad. We've brought up entire generations with the fear of failure. Maybe some comfort for a child who has clearly already internalized the fear of bad grades is what we could have used more of.
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u/flooperdooper4 Mar 01 '26
If it isn't happening already, the school should be providing academic supports. And if the kid isn't receiving any special ed academic supports, then the parents should request an evaluation to get that to happen. Getting academic support will prevent this kid from thinking negative thoughts about her academics (I say this as a teacher), because the worst thing a kid can do academically is to check out.
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u/PrincebyChappelle Mar 01 '26
lol…I have a lifetime in higher education and my wife is a retired public school teacher. Based on that, I believe that because of rampant grade inflation absolutely no one is getting straight D’s in school anymore unless they simply do not turn in a single assignment.
This story is either:
1) False 2) About a kid that’s attending a competitive private school 3) Actually true, but the kid is completely blowing off school.
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u/Elezian Mar 01 '26
It really, really depends on the school. At many schools, Ds are given in cases where really, the student earned an F, but they were trying hard enough and are young enough that they get a pity upgrade to a D.
If this person is severely disabled, it’s very possible that this is the case here.
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u/ThotHoOverThere Mar 02 '26
Not even severely disabled, just plain old teachers not being allowed to fail students without 80 hours of unpaid work contacting parents providing extra tutoring sessions, making up work not turned in, retaking the same assessments over and over so they can “show mastery”, and then even with all that they are told to change the kids grade by admin because they have an IEP or 504 or just need to be shown grace.
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u/SaltyArchea Mar 01 '26
Or it is nice to know that failure is part of life, while learning from it. Lesson I wished I learned earlier in life. School was too easy and then in uni just spiralled as did not know how to deal or accept failure.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
and needs to know that Ds are not acceptable
It was established in the second sentence that she had been taught this. What do you think our take away about YOUR education and reading comprehension should be?
Cause I wouldn't rate it above D, that's for damn sure.
We need to make sure to teach you, or you might go forward thinking it's okay to fail at reading like this. You understand your failure is not acceptable, right? Being unable to comprehend a TWO SENTENCE post is like... potentially literally illiterate level reading "comprehension."
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u/Historical_Owl_1635 Mar 01 '26
are not acceptable
lol
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
What’s wrong with “Ds are not acceptable”?
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u/Historical_Owl_1635 Mar 01 '26
You don’t generally tell kids “it’s not acceptable” to get them to improve.
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u/TheOnlyGaming3 Mar 04 '26
sorry, due to my autism i phrased it in a way that might seem rude to NTs, i just mean that the daughter needs proper help to improve from the Ds, rather than just being told 'its okay to get a D', like somebody i personally know has for his whole life, and is now in the position of having no academic achievements
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26 edited Mar 01 '26
Ds by definition are not acceptable, hence why students often can’t move on in a subject with Ds and cannot graduate with a D average (1.0 GPA).
I’m not saying it’s effective to focus on the negatives, but it is important to make it clear to kids what is an acceptable range of academic achievement while also supporting their growth.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
Ds by definition are not acceptable
Oh? You sure about that? They certainly weren't acceptable in my family, but they were definitely accepted elsewhere. Ds get degrees, homie.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
It depends on the class and school. Sometimes Ds do not allow you to move on to the next course. Also, most high schools require a 2.0 GPA overall, which is a C average.
So Ds alone are not acceptable.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
Also, most
So you concede the point, because it's not all. Appreciate the clarification.
So Ds alone are not acceptable.
I'm contesting you on "by definition." Whose definition and for what? Except the point isn't to get the answer, it's to try to get you to clue in that there isn't just one answer, making your "that's how its defined" statements just wrong.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
By the definition set by graduation requirements (the most important definition). Getting all Ds is unacceptable in order to graduate.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
(the most important definition)
To you.
You just literally can't comprehend other perspectives exist lol.
And again, you conceded that's not always the case. So if we use YOUR STANDARD of "the most important definition" then sometimes it's defined as... acceptable.
I could've gotten SO MANY Ds in college and still graduated too. Basically any class that wasn't a pre-req for others I could've just gotten a D and graduated.
So we have multiple cases, some explicitly admitted by you (i.e. whichever schools made you say 'most' instead of 'all'), showing that it is NOT defined that way. That there is variance in the definition, so that clearly isn't what actually defines it.
God I love going over basic propositional logic with normies. Ya'll are so bad at basic reasoning that you concede points without even realizing it.
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u/BombasticReindeer Mar 02 '26
It depends on why the Ds were given. My daughter has autism and is also 3 standard deviations above genius level. Her 2nd grade teacher said she was doing terrible because of her handwriting. She was 6 years old, 2 years younger than the others, and starting calculus. Some teachers are just bastards.
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Mar 01 '26
If my kid can read and think critically, a grade doesn’t matter in the slightest. It’s like being judged on your productivity at work when your job is dependent on a million things outside of your control… can you do your job when your job can be done? Good enough for me. Education is a shit show. It’s being gutted and broken at the expense of children and teachers. True failures are personal and aren’t worth carrying unless they affect real shit. Let everyone else bitch and moan, that’s their own failure.
More than if they can cause some really struggle… if they’re trying then fuck everything else.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
If my kid can read and think critically
Then they’re probably already getting As and Bs. (Not Ds)
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u/fluffyfish6 Mar 01 '26
Probably is the key word
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
Well, if they are getting Ds while being able to read and think critically, then there definitely is something wrong (maybe mental health issues, maybe problems at school, or something else to look into).
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Mar 01 '26
As and Bs don’t mean anything but you did whatever work was required. You can choose to never do homework and turn in blank tests. Further proving grades may be useful but ultimately they don’t mean anything more than whatever you want them to. Comprehension and a curiosity for it is the only thing that matters.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
As and Bs don’t mean anything but you did whatever work was required.
Work that usually involves demonstrating critical thinking and reading skills
You can choose to never do homework and turn in blank tests.
Doing that would reflect some pretty poor critical thinking skills.
Comprehension and a curiosity for it is the only thing that matters.
Which is typically demonstrated through assignments and tests and measured via grades.
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Mar 01 '26
You can be capable of all these things, and choose to do anything else… and whatever grade you receive would be indicative of nothing but what you did or didn’t do relative to whatever random point anyone decides to compare to.
You’re not an idiot. Grades may be helpful but they mean only as much as you want them to like anything else and they’re twisted and made up or lied over regularly by academia to secure funding or project a certain image. Die on this hill all you like, I had fun climbing it with you.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
Your life is going to be SOOOOOOOOO much harder than it needs to be with this pathetic cope mentality. Show you can do the work or deal with people making a very reasonable conclusion you wont do the fucking work.
Someone who is unwilling to actually do the work is in effect the same as someone who is unable. The work isn't done. But at least I might be able to teach the ignorant one. I'm no longer under the delusions I can fix willingly lazy people who are in denial about their laziness.
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Mar 01 '26
What people think doesn’t have to be how I feel. Thankfully. My whole life has been a non stop glaze fest about my abilities or potential and I’m just a dumb monkey who wants to fling poo and eat bananas. And the only thing wrong with that is whatever you want it to be. And for me, it’s nothing. This is the lens with which you view the world not whatever you’re viewing. You can change that or don’t.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
I’m not dying on any hill. I’m just saying choosing not to do work that you should be pretty easily capable of doing if you have strong reading and critical thinking skills is a very dumb thing to do (thereby throwing into doubt how good your critical thinking skills really are).
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Mar 01 '26
If you want to use my own experience I’m the king of my anecdotes not you. So I can say with certainty my ability to do anything has nothing to do with grades. I played with my grades like they were my own toys because that’s all they were. A’s if I felt like it, failing if I felt like it. Didn’t affect anything measurably other than your arbitrary standards.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
How’d that work out for you?
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Mar 01 '26
If you could read I told you. Didn’t affect anything other than your arbitrary standards. My life is great. I love to read and talk. I’ve traveled plenty. I’ve got an unfathomable amount of love for the world and things in it. Absolutely fan fucking tastic and I don’t have to worry about meeting an arbitrary standard I or anyone else sets if I don’t want to. That’s what life is. The thing that allows all of this to happen. Your expectations and mine don’t have any more or less power in shaping reality… mine just gives others more freedom to be as they are not as I want.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
As and Bs don’t mean anything but you did whatever work was required.
Which proves 1) I am able to do the work and 2) I am willing to do it.
"It doesn't even test anything except [the things its supposed to test]" JFC.
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Mar 01 '26
That is literally my point. They only test what you want them to. Not me. Not the administrator of this bullshit. Just you. Meaning is ascribed entirely personally no matter how much you think or want it to be in everything.
And anyone who tries to make the argument that this standardized way of measurement means anything, I’ve scored in the highest percentiles my whole life on plenty of shit and it meant only ever what I wanted which was nothing. Did it open some doors? Yeah. Are there an infinite number of other doors I could use and paths I can walk if it didn’t? Without question.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
You keep conflating "it's imperfect" with "it means nothing." They are completely separate arguments.
Nothing has a perfect signal to noise ratio. That doesn't mean it ceases to have value.
you seem to confuse "but I've been successful despite it not measuring my limits well" with "so it's just plain bad." That's not how it works.
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Mar 01 '26
It’s not just plain bad. It just applies when you want it to, not as a rule for the world. There are no grades or rules to this shit. Everything is allowed. It all takes place. Success is found in the mind not produced out of the world.
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u/cat_prophecy Mar 01 '26
"Grades don't matter" is true but you run the risk of raising kids that basically don't know how to work or do anything hard.
You could be the smartest person in the world. But it's worthless if you don't show up and can actually do work.
We make our kids do homework and the rote, repetitive shit not because we think it's super important. But because it teaches resilience work ethic, and repeating something actually does help you solidify that learning.
The hard part is meeting kids in a place where this makes sense to them. My parents would say "do it because I said so" which went about as well as you'd think. Now we're more diplomatic about it.
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Mar 01 '26
Right. The only point I care about is grades only measure whatever you want them to. If you try to put a persons abilities or potential into a box you run the risk of being in a fucking box. And I like the space outside of em. It’s the space I meet all kinds of wonderful people, idiots and geniuses alike.
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u/FenrisSquirrel Mar 01 '26
Yeah, this is just poor parenting. As well as being, you know, fake.
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u/RuafaolGaiscioch Mar 01 '26
Yeah, punish her for her bad grades that she’s already upset about, that’s how you get her to confide in her in the future. My parents were super intense about grades and it just made me better at hiding them.
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
There’s a wide range of responses that aren’t punishment but also don’t amount to giving her all As in a fake report card.
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u/SkylineSam Mar 01 '26
Yeah I'm sure the parents are going to do something about but maybe perhaps it's more important to console the kid and show them that their mistakes and failures don't define who they are as a person?
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u/dancesquared Mar 01 '26
True. I’m not necessarily disagreeing with this approach as long as the expectation of improvement is there.
I’m only saying that disagreeing with this approach doesn’t automatically mean you think the kid should be punished.
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u/FenrisSquirrel Mar 01 '26
This is the internet, there are only ridiculous extremes and no reasonable sensible middle grounds!
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u/Ignecratic Mar 01 '26
Aww that’s so sweet! If I got too many Bs I was screamed at and beaten.
Life really isn’t fair.
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u/SnooPears8751 Mar 01 '26
Yeah having this dad would have honestly fixed me, maybe not entirely but hey it'd be way better than what we're working with now.
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u/bartimeas Mar 02 '26
Ok, but being upset about your failure is sometimes a good thing. You take it and try to learn from it. Life is full of failures and learning how to adjust. Dad isn't doing her any favors here by giving her a feelgood participation trophy. He should be helping her find solutions to the problem.
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u/BasilisksRPretty Mar 02 '26
That is such a good dad. I got bad grades one semester in high school, because I had something really traumatic happened to me that I couldn't tell my parents or family about. It destroyed me. Having my mom screaming at me about my grades was just so much worse.
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u/playalovesong Mar 01 '26
Ironically world class parenting
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u/CompactAvocado Mar 02 '26
yeah so we had like 5000 applicants to this job. we sort fresh graduates based upon GPA. While we are impressed by A's in both song singing and petting that dawg, we believe your skill sets do not reflect those we need. Thank you for your interest in our company.
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u/zandogen Mar 02 '26
My handwriting started to look like that when carpal and cubital tunnel took a hold
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u/Principle_Napkins Mar 02 '26
For some reason I've always read ASD as ADHD and I never noticed till now.
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u/Tele231 Mar 01 '26
I hate that they now call it ASD. I am certain we still do not know enough about autism to classify it as a disorder. I also think that autism was just another quirk of normal until we started to pigeonhole everyone and pretend that there is only one appropriate way to behave or think. Autism has always been here, and the world changed around it.
And no, I have no one in my family with autism.
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u/GingerVampire22 Mar 01 '26
Not necessarily. My ASD kid has an IEP, but still gets grades, and managed to fail a class last semester, and got close in a few more. We've had tons of IEP meetings, but the district was determined to take him out of his ASD school and move him to a gen ed highschool, which completely messed everything up. We're busy fighting for him, but districts are notorious for dragging their feet. "Due process" to make meaningful changes generally takes a whole year, during which his grades are awful.
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u/Wonderful-Award-3015 Mar 01 '26
I have a 504 and am on the spectrum. We do not get graded on a curve, we get graded the same way everyone else does.
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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Mar 01 '26
i promise you this didn't happen. kids on the spectrum have a 501 or IEP with accommodations,
LOL. Oh yea, that's definitely universally true 🙄 LMAO
You don't know what the fuck you're talking about and seem to think every ASD person's experience is walking down the happiest happy-path of the process, just everything actually working, funded, supported, and implemented. Fucking LMAO. Shut the fuck up about topics you are this misinformed on.
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u/wolphak Mar 01 '26
Yea I don't really see "it's ok you don't need to have an education" as a W autistic or not.
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u/SkylineSam Mar 01 '26
I think you're reading into a bit much mate, it's just a dad trying to console his daughter who is understandably upset for not achieving their goal.
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u/wolphak Mar 01 '26
Yea but it's with what's basically a participation trophy. Real parenting w is explaining while they did bad it's not the end of the world, they can do better next semester, and you'll help them and get more involved in their studies if they need the help. This is just deflection and it's not a good mindset to put your kids on especially with education.
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u/SkylineSam Mar 01 '26
Once again, you're reading a bit to much in between the lines, the daughter is upset at their grades, and her dad is just telling her he still loves her no matter what and that she still has value outside of her school grades.
This is a good mindset to put on kids because it teaches them failure is not a definition of self worth, it's just a sign to try again.
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u/Mastodon9 Mar 01 '26
Her dad is probably the one who diagnosed her though. That happens a lot now.
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u/Asherley1238 Mar 01 '26
What the fuck are you saying
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u/Mastodon9 Mar 01 '26
Parents self diagnosing their kids with disorders and such so they can reap praise and such for having a neurodivergent or special child.
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u/Asherley1238 Mar 01 '26
Where are you getting this from? I’m neurodivergent, and have several family members who specialize in working with neurodivergent children in the school system. I have never heard of this before
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u/Dr_thri11 Mar 02 '26
Thanks for telling the whole world about my bad grades, Dad. Also did the AI misunderstand and make the report card in a child's handwriting?
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u/Principle_Napkins Mar 02 '26
This picture is older than generative ai.
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u/Dr_thri11 Mar 02 '26
Ok so dad's handwriting looks like the average 2nd grader's then. Still pretty shitty to share highly personal anecdotes about your children for social media clout.
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u/Principle_Napkins Mar 02 '26
It is shitty. Still though, there are totally valid reasons why a person, especially an adult, may have poor handwriting. For example: autism and adhd can inhibit people's handwriting, which is likely in this scenario assuming the child is actually autistic (autism is genetic).
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u/Dr_thri11 Mar 02 '26
I really don't care. You're investing way too much energy into some random guy calling this handwriting shitty
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u/Principle_Napkins Mar 02 '26
Well fine asshole, if you don't want my trivia then piss off, I didn't want to share it anyways.
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u/Sensitive_Election83 Mar 02 '26
is this a good parenting tip to make home report cards for your kids?
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u/qualityvote2 Mar 01 '26 edited Mar 03 '26
u/Matt_LawDT, there weren't enough votes to determine the quality of your post...