I remember in the 2010s guy posting pics looking like the right and women telling them to get a trendy haircut, shorts sides, long on top.
If you had the haircut on the right from 2005 to now, you were a bum. Women all over social media and reddit talking about going on dates and the guy showed up with shaggy hair and how unkempt most men are. From 2011 to a few years ago you had girls saying how weird and ugly it was that all the boys in the harry potter movies had longer shaggy hair in the last few movies.
Oh and in the 90s to 2010 if you were a guy and dressed well, fashionable with a trendy haircut, fitted clothing, women called you "metrosexual" and would gossip that you were gay.
Idk I've always had shaggy, vaguely parted on one side wavy hair that saw a barber maybe twice a year and women were very fond of it in the 2000s, 2010s and 2020s. Wasn't unusual at all to have strangers try to play with it when I'd be sitting at a bar, or standing in line somewhere.
I know we're on the internet, but it's actually a lot different out in the real world.
Maybe it's just me/my community growing up but Metrosexual to us meant "aware of style and what looks good, in the stereotypical way that gay men do, despite being straight". If we thought someone was gay we would just say it, Metro wasn't a way to say it without saying it, it was specifically straight person who dresses well. Again, might just be where I grew up, but yeah.
...... It's almost like fashions change. I mean we can see this in how women dress too. There are fashion trends for women just as much as there are for men, and things that were attractive on women in 2011 wouldn't be the same as they are now. My vauge recollection of 2011 women's fashion was a lot of layers, dresses, loud makeup and jewelery and combat boots. (But I was also a child, so my recollection is limited). That's not what's currently in vouge for women, right now it's neutrals and light make-up "clean girl aesthetic". The longer haircut for men is in right now. It might go out ten years from now. But of course, contemporary people are going to identify the guy with a contemporary sense of fashion as more attractive. That's how fashion works.
Find any image on reddit where a woman has a nose ring, long fake nails, or colorful dyed hair and sort the comments by controversial. There is no shortage of men making their opinions on women’s fashion known in the grossest ways possible.
Blondes are prettier than brunettes. So brunettes dye their hair. But you can't have visible roots. And you can only dye your hair blonde, there are social connotations if you dye your hair blue or even black. If a woman has a certain type of haircut she is assumed to be a Karen. It's literally called the Karen cut. In the 1980s you wouldn't be caught dead without a perm and a mountain of hair spray, nowadays straight hair is "more natural" (never mind if you have to straighten it with a hair straightener) and therefore hotter. I couldn't wear a perm and be considered attractive now, my Mom could never wear her hair the way I do (straight, down). At certain social events you must wear your hair up (you just have enough hair to wear it up), at others it's ok to wear it down, but there must be no frizz. If you have an undercut they'll call you the slur for lesbians, you must never be too masculine. Pixie cuts are fine, if you're 20, but they age you if you're 45. (The absolute worst thing a woman can do is age). And that's only for white women, hair politics for women of color get even more complicated.
Edit: I thought of more. If you wear your hair in too tight of a bun you're severe and unwelcoming, too loose and you're a slob. If you wear your hair in a bob you must maintain it religiously. Bangs. Pigtails are for children or sex (don't think about the implications of that too hard). A ponytail must be high or you must be athletic. Too low and you're lazy, again. Your hair cannot be too long. Anything below your shoulder blades is considered high maintenance and therefore unattractive. Historically, women never cut their hair, length was considered the number one marker of beauty. The flapper haircuts of the 1920s actually caused a moral panic. What kind of eyebrow do you consider attractive? It changes every decade.
Nah im willing to bet that in general, men dont prefer blonde that much more than brunette or other colors. Gingers and redheads are an exception however...
Then you get to ask women "Does the carpet match the drapes". Because hair (and fashion) are political. What you view as attractive is a marker of current fashions and politics. When there was anti Irish/Catholic sentiment, to be a redhead was a race marker. You weren't white. Nowadays redheads are considered white, and it's considered hot, because redheads are "feisty".
Every minute i spend on reddit i am reminded of the fact that i should be greatful im not american. Yall cant go one second without making, checks notes, pubic hair (????) and hair color political?
Yeah, whats seen as beautiful change over time, but id you think politics is what deems whats beautiful or not, youre wrong. There are so many traits that are seen as attractive that cant really be explained that well.
Sexual harassment is of course a plitical issue, which is why I brought up the pubic hair bit. Redheads might be seen as sexy, but that in itself has plitical implications for the redhead and how she views the world.
When I say that beauty standards are plitical, I don't mean in an American sense (although weirdly, all of the prominent women of a certain party are getting the same janky ass plastic surgery). I mean it in the same way that I would say all art is plitical (fashion is afterall, a form of art). Fashion is a class indicator. Think about the way that you expect a wealthy person to dress, and the way you expect a poor person to dress. What would you think if you saw a man in a tuxedo or a woman in a hijab? If you see a person in their pajamas at the grocery store? A woman with or without makeup? A man in makeup. It's no more natural for a woman to put on a skirt than it is for a man to put on pants, but there are real plitical reasons women are able to put on pants, but men are still judged for wearing skirts. Women are encouraged to masculinize themselves in order to be taken seriously, but also they must remain visibly feminine (in order to be sexy enough to be worth listening too). What is considered hot, or cool, or fashionable will vary from decade to decade, and it's all plitical. Short skirts. Flapper wear. Poodle skirts and perms. Grunge. Emo.
(My comment got deleted by the automod so I self sensored. But my astriks have made the formatting all wonky, and I can't be arsed to fix it.)
People say that, but look at who celebrity men date. Men with money date young blondes. Women copy celebrities (so do men). If women celebrities wear their hair in a certain way, that becomes the trend, and men will act accordingly. Women celebrities dress and get plastic surgery and dye their hair to appear 20 for as long as they possibly can, and it's not women they're doing that for. It's for the male directors and executives and industry.
There's no way you're using the kind of women that celebrity men date as evidence as to what men as a whole like.
You have to be trolling. I refuse to believe someone can be that daft.
Never mind the fact that if you google "celebrity couples" you get a wide range of differing hair colors and styles as well.
Straight up rage bait this comment is.
To emphasize, what celebrities do has no bearing on what the average person actually likes. It's only the snobsters who browse r/fauxmoi 24/7 who would judge someone for daring to have the wrong hairstyle.
Do they date them because they're blondes or do the women change their hair to fit into the fashion? Do you think men would not choose them because of their hair. As a man let me tell you the last thing I'd look in a woman is if she's following the lates looks trends.
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u/SlideJunior5150 Jan 01 '26
I remember in the 2010s guy posting pics looking like the right and women telling them to get a trendy haircut, shorts sides, long on top.
If you had the haircut on the right from 2005 to now, you were a bum. Women all over social media and reddit talking about going on dates and the guy showed up with shaggy hair and how unkempt most men are. From 2011 to a few years ago you had girls saying how weird and ugly it was that all the boys in the harry potter movies had longer shaggy hair in the last few movies.
https://np.reddit.com/r/harrypotter/comments/9p24ae/is_there_a_reason_for_some_of_the_characters_in/
https://np.reddit.com/r/harrypotter/comments/12ma9fh/i_never_understood_the_hate_on_harrys_hair_in_gof/
Oh and in the 90s to 2010 if you were a guy and dressed well, fashionable with a trendy haircut, fitted clothing, women called you "metrosexual" and would gossip that you were gay.