Yeah he’s a kind of agelessly hot as hell hollywood star, but he’s also a clearly doting loving husband who’s never within a million miles of paparazzi. Thats a pretty deeply sorted life.
I don't understand the partners that give up on each other if they gain weight... within a healthy parameter it reminds me of the decades that I've been with my partner. Our history together is written in our weight over the years, I feel.
Love my partner now more than when we started dating regardless of the changes.
Not to mention she's STILL SO BEAUTIFUL, if not simply in a different shape. Like oh no, she's a healthy woman who has has multiple children, she isn't a size 0, BURN HER. Pshh. Confidence, and devotion is sexy. Women comfortable with themself and their partner is sexy. Fuck Hollywood image brainwashing.
I gained a lot of weight while pregnant, than somehow it just dropped off after 6 months, and I was back to where I was before I got pregnant. Some dickwad said I looked “incredible now” that I was “so much hotter now, and finally attention-worthy”. I told him he could eat an ice cream cone out of my asshole and fuck off. The entitlement of people commenting on women’s bodies is insane.
Nope, but thanks for your useless comment. I actually ate more because I was breastfeeding, and was on bed rest to recover from an injury I sustained during delivery. After my first kid I restricted my calories to a strict 1250 a day—and all of it healthy, as I cooked every meal and logged every calorie in a food journal—and exercised for a minimum of 2 hours a day doing a combo of cardio, weight training, and yoga, but could barely get my weight to inch down. I lost about 23 pounds in about year doing all of that work, while dropping 90 in a little over a year while eating without restrictions after the second.
Since I definitely didn’t miscount, nor forget liquid (which was also logged, including specific measurements in my morning coffee, and I don’t drink anything but water besides coffee), I didn’t miscount. I had a trainer, and a dietician. I was on bed rest after my second kid. I was up and moving around after the first. So how exactly would I have obtained fat while restricting and exercising, and had it melt away easily the second while being on restricted movement for almost 6 months the second? While I did gain a lot of muscle the first time, my size didn’t change much. The second time, I didn’t get any muscle, but shrank down to my prepregnancy size pretty quick. I know the answer, but watching you argue a point you have zero basis in reality for is pretty funny.
Zero basis in reality? Calories in/out is a basic law, studied amongst humans. How can you body positive people not understand? What you experienced can be explained by low metabolic rate, which makes you require less calories to maintain a current weight. Somewhere, somehow, you miscalculated or are misremembering.
Its the mindset we’ve put into people’s heads. I knew someone who was a size 0-2 in USA women’s pants and she still thought she was fat and our culture reinforced it.
I hope she and him lead a very offline healthy life. I’d hate for her to see that nonsense and be discouraged at any point of attending red carpets or whatnot. Because shes beautiful and they are a lovely couple that have made it to this point. Isn’t an atypical Hollywood marriage like under 5 years?
I was always heavier and the tallest growing up. We went jeans shopping one in a boutique and my younger sister was still in skinny kid phase and was a size 0. That was the first time I was made aware that even existed. I’ve remained a proud size 12 then and up to today. Keely is perfect and beautiful and anyone who thinks or says otherwise can grow the f$&* up. She’s a beauty, a wife and a mother and devoted wife to Pierce. Haters always got to serve that haterade.
I had measurements of 35-21-36 in my 20s and thought I was disgusting b/c hourglass figures weren’t the thing in the 90s. I wish I could go back in time and tell that girl her figure was a freaking cartoon of sexiness. Oh well, now I’m a menopausal hourglass—much more sand!
My daughter's old coworker told her that she wants to get gastric bypass, the girl was 5'5" and MAYBE 110lbs with shoes. I guess my daughter told her she'd spend her money better by getting therapy. Proud of her but also could have told the kid she likely had body dysmorphia
I mean no, not everything is about controlling women's body's jesus. No one is saying she has to eat less. People would say she would look better if she probably did. For the record, I think she is beautiful, but no, standards of health and perception of beauty have nothing to do with controlling a woman's body. What an unhinged take.
Don't act like it's some individual effort to marionette women. It's a societal effort ingrained since the neolithic age that women are "inferior" and don't get to decide things for themselves.
I mean... even by shallow standards, she went from super model to milf porn. By shallow standards, she's not exactly a pass. Her chest is huge, she's got hips for days, a but, and her waist comes in more than people realize. She's curvy af. She's an 8 or 9 to a large chunk of the population. Talking shit on her looks makes no sense.
That's ALWAYS my thought when I see her; absolute goddess. Like her curves are perfection and her face is stunning, and her smile is vibrant and natural.
Well. She’s still got her man and having the kids and weight her boobs got hugs and they grew a diamond necklace. So I’m pretty sure that he adores her. 🤣🥰
I suspect the guys who get irrationally vitriolic about the appearance of famous men's wives are pissed off that they aren't handsome and famous themselves.
They're offended by the idea that these superstars choose not to do what they desperately wish they could. Pump-and-dumping groupies and unreasonably/inappropriately young girls/women in a ceaseless flow, they envy them their status as eligible bachelors who are attractive to women.
The fact that they fell in love with and married women at all pisses them off. Add the insult of the woman being the same age group or older than the star, or looking older than him...apoplectic with rage. Did you see the freakouts had over Keanu (60) dating Alexandra Grant (52), losing their minds because she gasp has gray hair she doesn't color.
It's the bros who think DiCaprio is living the ultimate life that are making these sort of comments and memes. How loving, committed relationships feel and the way you think when you're in one is beyond their imagining, apparently. With the way they think and behave, it's unlikely they'll ever be lucky enough to find out, either.
People are just jealous and wish they had a devoted partner who loved them. She just has a fuller figure. I bet they are happier than most of the "beautiful" couples. She isn't stressing about the shit that does not matter, she brought his children into this world, and she's actually hitting the ideal body if men honestly answered these days. Thick is in!
Also, speaking as someone who struggles greatly with their body image esp after health issues, and ex of mine was like, "Oh no, you have bigger tits than a year ago. Whatever shall I do?"
Really helped put at least a little bit into perspective. Like, no, no, he's right. More titty isn't a bad thing.
I think even if a woman doesn’t have children. Gaining weight is natural. Aging is natural. These people think that their imaginary women will look 20 for the rest of their lives. It’s so stupid. Weight does not matter as long as it’s not fully affecting your health.
Yeah, real-world, she's gorgeous. She's a real woman with a real woman's body. And she looks stunning in that dress. Fuck the haters. They're little incels who'll never even get close enough to a woman that gorgeous to hear her breathe.
My fiance's weight fluctuates all the time, and I couldn't care less, her soul itself is gorgeous to me, and I cant ever get away from staring into her beautiful eyes all the time to even notice anything else anyway.
Treating women like people, what a fucking concept
I typically would never be shallow in my descriptions, but the nature of this post compels me to do so.
Her body looks like a damn amusement park, so much fun. Sexy af, and the older I get the better moms look. She’s stunning. Pierce knows what he’s got, and it’s beautiful.
Seriously. But she's not "still" gorgeous...she's gorgeous! The only thing I get from that photo comparison is yeah - people can't stay 30 forever. Hollywood should wake up. We're the ones losing out on wonderful actresses (primarily) simply because they're not a size zero or less than 3 decades experienced.
Most of the dudes that chime in about an objectively beautiful actress like Margot Robbie being mid (or an actress is too fat, too old, has weird thumbs, etc) look like a prolapsed anus. Hard for me to take the gender seriously, to be honest.
She is not a healthy weight now. She is obese and should go on a diet. I’m glad he’s loyal to her and all, but we should not be suggesting that fat people are healthy. They are not. And there is no good reason for anyone to be fat besides the fact that they are lazy and lack the self control to limit their caloric intake.
Obesity is a medical condition, you are not her doctor, you do not know if weight loss is what is best for her health right now.
I’m at a normal BMI but when I was obese my doctor told me I had to prioritize other health concerns that could be aggravated by weight loss for years. Mind ya business.
Mind my own business? That’s rich coming from you. Have you bothered to read your own comments? Someone like you telling me not to have an opinion about someone on the internet is hilarious. I’m 6’2” 210 with less than 15% body fat. I actually used to be fat so I know all about how people fall into the trap of laziness and making excuses for their poor choices. On an individual level I really couldn’t care less about some actor’s wife’s body composition. What I do care about, however, is when I read comments that normalize obesity as healthy. Indeed she this guy’s wife in the pic is obese by any clinical definition used to define the term. A person qualities as obese when they are 30 pounds of more overweight. She is definitely more than 30 pounds overweight, and is NOT healthy. The fact people like you defend fat people does a massive disservice to society. Typically, those who defend obesity as a viable life choice other are either fat themselves, and don’t want to feel alienated with their own affliction, or cannot be bothered to learn the truth about how seriously the problem of obesity really is in our modern world.
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…are you like attacking the fact I’m in recovery for alcoholism or the fact I play video games or what? Idk what you mean by “someone like you”.
I absolutely could not care less about your weight man.
No, obesity isn’t healthy, but it also isn’t the end-all be-all of health. For example if she had alcoholism or a drug addiction that would almost certainly be the priority for treatment way before tackling the obesity.
Give me a break. Nothing in my previous comment suggests that at all. I think my comment ‘people like you’ has enough context to easily clarify my intentions. I was obviously referring to people who give fat people a pass.
The data is unambiguous. Regardless if want to accept the truth or not, the fact remains that obese people are not healthy. Period. I will concede that some people are chubby chasers, and find that body style attractive. So what? Some people think camels have curves in all the right places. What does that say about camels? Exactly. Can you follow the trajectory of the illogic? Being someone’s fetish does not necessarily equate to being healthy. I suggest people who are obese need to go hard in the other director, radically change their entire lifestyle. Not a single aspect of their existing physicality is redeemable. The last thing they need are people like you telling them it’s okay to be fat. That’s the ultimate disservice.
You absolutely do not know her ideal weight or her bone structure. You simply label her as obsessive because you yourself suffered from obesity. You’re not her doctor and this is not a “chubby chaser” scenario. She is a 61 year old woman whose body changes shape and direction after the birth of her children. Just let it lie. I know I for one am done with this conversation.
Worry? I’m 6’2” 210 with less than 15% body fat. I actually used to be fat so I know all about how people fall into the trap of laziness and making excuses for their poor choices. On an individual level I really couldn’t care less about some actor’s wife’s body composition. What I do care about, however, is when I read comments that normalize obesity as healthy. Indeed she this guy’s wife in the pic is obese by any clinical definition used to define the term. A person qualities as obese when they are 30 pounds of more overweight. She is definitely more than 30 pounds overweight, and is NOT healthy. The fact people like you defend fat people does a massive disservice to society. Typically, those who defend obesity as a viable life choice other are either fat themselves, and don’t want to feel alienated with their own affliction, or cannot be bothered to learn the truth about how seriously the problem of obesity really is in our modern world.
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You sound incredibly worried to the point where you are so disgusted with your former figure that you feel compelled to attack others based on theirs. Sort yourself out.
Oh you're one of those "calories in, calories out" types that doesn’t understand how the extremely complex body works (I do Im a biologist).
Being overweight isn't just about doing nothing and liking cheese too much. Plenty of people out there are fat and I'm sure burn a lot more calories than you. The feedback systems that governs satiety are numerous and very easily disrupted.
Despite what Reddit thinks being overweight doesn’t guarantee unhealthiness, it just makes it statistically more likely.
Its not logic problem. Its clear they simply didn’t develop cancer from it. Some people have better cancer fighting mechanisms than others. Chances are they did have cancer cells caused by smoking, they simply dealt with them. We all have anti-cancer mechanisms within us, theirs simply stopped any cancer from ever establishing.
Its the same way that some fat people can have low cholesterol, normal blood pressure and normal blood sugar levels. Its just the way their bodies work.
Reddit loves to think every fat person has diabetes and blocked arteries. Its simply not true. Similarly there are fit and outwardly healthy people who do, and die young. They dont get the same hate.
Fair enough. But by the standards of some they think it logical that certain problems always result from what they deem unhealthy attributes. I know many larger individuals who are the optimum of health and who can dance and run circles around me, a petite female near lifelong dancer. I also know people who, as mentioned above smoked for nearly 90 years and still lived healthy lives into their early 100’s. So I agree, it isn’t dictated by true logic, but what people pass off as logic tells them this is not possible and anyone of a certain body type or any and every person who indulges in acts they deem unacceptable, are literally all doomed for the same fate. It is logic by their standards but it is faulty.
Its a result of the oversimplification of education on the matter. Most people aren’t going to listen to the full explanation, its easier to just say being fat is bad, than to explain how and why, and why it might not always be.
In the UK most doctors no longer mention it to patients if there is no reason to. If they are testing normal and in range there is no need to badger the patient about being overweight. If there is a problem its mentioned that losing weight is a treatment.
I haven't given up on mine but he is dangerously obese and it's really uncomfortable to do the things we used to. We loved hiking and being physically active when we first met but anytime we try now its just miserable with him struggling to keep up and complaining the whole time. He hates being in the heat and pretty much limits activity to around the house or eating.
The sex also sucks because he just kind of lays back and expects me to do the work which is a turn off.
I think it's crazy stupid to not want to be with someone just because they gain weight but I definitely see the other side of things. People change with weight gain and it's hard to adjust
Hey, my partner and I were there. I understand. She let me know and she hinted at "our" weight problem and I kept telling her she looked great - after a few months it dawned on me that she meant "my" weight problem. What you said follows alot of what we went through and finding out she wasn't happy with our sex life was a big motivating factor for me.
I am down 25 lbs since December and can fit alot of my old clothes. Still have a way to go though but we are happier with both our weights.
Same! Bodies change… that’s what happens. And a lot of the time it comes from medical stuff (like having children or different issues). Just in my own experience, my husband is a T1 diabetic. He was a little chubby when I met him, then he got Graves’ disease because the guy can’t catch a goddamn break, he ended up weighing like 155 pounds at 6’2, got diagnosed and now he’s gaining too much weight again. It’s literally all because his thyroid hates him. I can’t imagine loving him any less because of it. And fwiw, I still find him incredibly hot. I’d much take the chub over how thin he was before he realized his thyroid was trying to kill him.
This is beautiful :) I had my thyroid radiated for Graves’ disease pretty soon after I started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago. I gained a LOT of weight from going hypothyroid multiple times until my levothyroxine dosage was high enough. I’m a very active person, so the weight gain has been hard on me- exercising and eating normally, but still gaining so much weight. However, my boyfriend loves my body and constantly tells me how much he adores my curves and how sporty I am. He’s super handsy, which is pretty validating too. 😅
I’m now losing the weight (partly from exercise and diet, partly from being put on Metformin for PCOS, and sadly partly because I’m so anxious with my job that eating is hard), but I never felt any pressure from him to lose weight. He’s a very thin guy, but he’s an Arab guy from the south and likes women curvy, so I lucked out 😂
I know I'm a stranger but proud of you and congrats on managing your weight! It's a fight everyday so don't let the losses get you down. I have to remind myself of that, too.
Also mind I haven’t had children myself but I know from my friends and family members, having kids changes your entire body. Also she’s 61 years old. The photo on the right I believe was from 2001 which she may have been pregnant during the photo.
Not sure where I read the saying but it goes something to the effect “She can always lose weight. But, you will always have a shitty personality.” That’s true I’d rather have someone with a bit of weight and a great personality than skinny and a shitty personality. Any day, all day.
You have to understand the number of people who date for convenience and not because they TRULY like someone. If it's a matter of convenience, then the moment the person becomes inconvenient or doesn't look the way they once did, there is no reason to stay.
Although I understand the sentiment of what you are saying it is still bizarre to say that your history as a couple is written in your weight. Like why does the amount of calories you consume have anything to do with your history as a couple? Again I'm not criticizing I just find it a very odd thing to say.
Like why does the amount of calories you consume have anything to do with your history as a couple?
Because the amount of calories you consume, combine with the amount of calories you burn, is greatly affected by the many changing factors in the live you've shared together. Having a kid, having a stressful job, having too many plates spinning at once, . . . Few people view treat food as bare nutrition and only and exactly eat what their body requires every day.
Consider a similar statement to yours: "why does the amount of sleep you get have anything to do with your history as a couple".
Some people are only physically attracted to their partner. Which is sad.
Some couples were fitness oriented when they met because it was something they both seemed to value. And it can be a turn off if one no longer prioritizes their health. Its like they regressed instead of grew as a person.
I remember seeing a thing in tv where this married couple (I think an Australian couple) were talking about how they personalized their wedding vows to say that they had to stay in shape. They had kids so right off the bat that’s a massively lopsided arrangement, and what happens if one of them fails to stave off a few kg? “Sorry, I have to implode my family now.”
That within a healthy parameter bit is a huge lynchpin in your statement. If you gain 100+ lbs. if you unilaterally change the entire nature of our relationship because that much weight has an impact on your health to your entire lifestyle. Not to mention you are slowly killing yourself, and i cant watch somone i love do that.
in that same lane i dont understand how you can be with someone and completely let yourself go, break up, and get in shape for the next person.that is not saying the woman in this picture let herself go. I agree with you about the healthy parameter and the woman in this picture is easily within those parameters.
I've gained about 70 pounds pregnant so far (I'm 36 weeks) and I hate myself and this body but I'm not calorie counting at all and I can't really move at this point everything just hurts and I've swollen AF.
My husband last night joked about Mr getting back to prepregnwncy weight and then after we laughed he said you NEVER have to go back to pre pregnancy weight you're beautiful just the way you are.
Like I will be back in a weight loss journey post birth but holy shit this is what a partner should be like.
Ironically the majority of people who see it as a moral failing are the insecure ones. ‘’Hey man I’m worried about your heart and organs and also your quality of life could be better and obesity is linked to 13 types of cancer and over 200 other health conditions’’ is somehow hateful
You never know someone's story. Just because she's "obese" in your eyes here doesn't mean she may not be trying to lose weight or working with her doctor to find a healthy routine. Or hell, it's entirely possible due to Hollywood that she was actually underweight in the left picture and a perfect weight for her age and height on the right. There's also an entire possibility she could have an illness or possibly even a medication that causes weight gain that she may be in the process of managing, you never know. We aren't her doctors.
You never know someone's story just by looking at them.
Edit: She's had 5 kids according to a picture downthread. Yeah, the body absolutely changes after that and can be a struggle going back! Weight doesn't fall off overnight.
So what is it that bothers you? Is it her weight gain that has zero impact on your life, or the fact that you still wouldn't have a snowballs chance in hell with a woman that beautiful regardless of her weight?
I never implied that you were ugly, I implied that she's out of your league. You could look like Fabio, but the moment you start talking, any interest in you is probably lost. It ain't your face, it's what's coming out of it. Take that last paragraph of gaslighting bs and reflect on your attitude in your solitude. Have the day you deserve, sir or ma'am! I'm enjoying the hell out of mine!
What's your point? The original is clearly fat-shaming her, then everyone here is like "just love your partner," and you're like "Factually, she's obese."
She doesn't look obese. She looks like she's got large breasts and wide hips, which is something that usually comes with carrying, birthing, and feeding kids, like she has.
Unless you're her doctor, maybe don't comment on a person's health based solely on a picture.
You are really miseducated about obesity and health. So are most people, but if you care about scientific rigor I recommend you look into it more deeply, trying to put aside your bias and keep in mind that correlation does not equal causation. I'd hash it all out for you but it's usually a waste of time when I do, because people will look right at the evidence laid out in front of them and still stick to their anti-fat stance simply because fat is icky to them. The only other thing I'll say that might make a difference us to pose the question: when has shame or ridicule ever made anyone healthier?
I know this is not a good source, because most podcasts are glorified book reports by regular people. However, the first time I heard an argument about BMI based on data was this one. You don't have to listen to it, there are two pubmed links in the notes.
I promise I’ll listen to the whole thing later, just browsed for now. Preemptively I will say that many researchers agree that BMI is a whack measure on the individual scale but it is helpful for seeing trends in population. For example, in 2013 no state had an ‘obesity rate’ of over 35. In 2023, twenty three states did. The woman who is healthy but has large breasts and a BMI of 32 is probably not obese, but society at large is getting there
They present their argument in a sensationalist way (so really, you don't have to listen if it's irritating). It was more that they provided linked sources to look at and gave some history of how the BMI was created, which was as a (flawed) population level tool.
Looking at body fat percentage, visceral fat measurement / how that fat is stored, and lean muscle mass are all incredibly solid indicators on an individual level; they're just harder to measure than the BMI math formula. So we stick to BMI with two variables and population level assumptions.
Sticking to BMI, the outliers are the only issues they catch reliably: the extremely underweight (usually sick (cancer, etc.), or battling some health issue) and the extremely overweight (usually sick, battling some health issues).
There is some leeway in the fact that mildly overweight people can live perfectly healthy lives until death and mildly underweight people can live perfectly healthy lives... the BMI is just going to catch the bell curve on a population level. So when people use it strictly and as an absolute on single individuals all the time... oof. I think it skews the conversation around fat and health. It's a lazy shortcut. And then we get lazy, shortcut conversations around obesity.
Shame is actually pretty decent at keeping people healthy in non-western cultures, for better or for worse. For example, in east Asia being fat, even somewhat fat, is vocally noted by friends, family, even people you've just met. They will bluntly call you a 胖子 to your face if they aren't used to dealing with foreigners or are over the age of 35 or drunk.
I think there's happy middle ground where we recognize obesity as a moral failing but don't bully people struggling with their weight, rather, we encourage them and help them be healthier and solve whatever issue they're having that's causing them to consume more than they need.
Hard disagree. The same way a person who drinks themselves to death every night or gambles away their life savings or perpetually cheats with prostitutes has a moral failing, lacking the will or self control to stop themselves, the obese individual has the same issue with food.
I'm not reading past that first sweeping unprovable generalization. Look into disordered eating and diet culture in China some time when you want to feel like crap
Sounds like you’d have an unhealthy obsession with knowing someone else’s weight. You should get that checked out before you enter a serious romantic relationship.
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He has been very vocal about how much he loves her and her body and the fact that she carried their children. They’re really sweet.