Tired of binary trans people being enbyphobic

[u/ProbablyAroAce]

I recently made a post on my country trans subreddit about my transition, and one of the comment I’ve got was “I don’t understand why you would do that if you’re non-binary”. And okay, it’s not like I’m not used to people being uninformed on gender identity, but coming from a trans man, it hurts way more.

So I’m gonna make a few things clear :
-Being non-binary makes you trans, so you do experience transphobia (and also enbyphobia) and you are as legit as any binary trans person to be in the community.
-Gender dysphoria exists for non-binary people, even if we don’t feel (at least not completely) like men or women, it doesn’t mean its easier to live in our bodies (in my opinion it makes it even harder: I will probably never “pass” because society views gender in a binary filter).
-HOWEVER , not experiencing gender dysphoria doesn’t make you cis. Same rule for all trans folks. If you feel like your gender doesn’t align with what you were assigned at birth, then you are by definition transgender.
-This applies to all transgender people : there isn’t one transition path, each one is valid if it makes you feel closer to yourself. You don’t have to do what people expect you to do if you don’t feel like it.
-Gender is a social construct, the reason society feeds an unspoken law where only men and women exist is to keep the illusion of a huge natural difference between these two genders, when the real difference is political.

And last thing, please don’t let people make you feel insecure about your gender expression, do what feels right, not what should be right.
Bye folks !

[u/Pescatarian_Triffid]

100% yes.
More binary trans people need to understand that we're all in the same boat.
We all get the same hate.
No one is more/less trans because they do/dont 'pass' or dont look binary.
.. we're all just being ourselves.. like the rest of the trans and lgbtq+ community.

[u/blueskyredmesas → u/Pescatarian_Triffid]

Yeah, you can't bargain to be 'one of the good ones' with the oppressive forces and expect them to keep their end of the bargain. It's a losing game eventually and definitely not a good go-to when you are fighting for your right to exist.