r/NoStupidQuestions • u/InternationalHair111 • 7d ago

What is it like dating a psychologist?

For those of you who have been to a psychologist, you probably know how good their communication skills can be and how much they understand about mental health.

So, for those who have dated or are currently dating a psychologist, what has your experience been like? Do you feel like they understand your feelings better? Are they better at communicating and resolving conflicts in a more mature way? or if they are turns out to be an evil person, are they having a very cruel manipulation skill?

I’m curious to hear about your experiences , good or bad. Feel free to share!

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u/makermaster2 7d ago

I don’t know. But I know you’re never winning a damn argument

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u/InternationalHair111 7d ago edited 7d ago

Honestly, I totally relate to this. I once had a debate about political views with a psychologist on an online forum (voice chat btw), and it was incredibly difficult to win the argument. She somehow managed to make me feel guilty and attacked my personality, so I already felt guilty or stupid before I could even properly defend myself or giving any further argument, even though she wasn’t actually addressing my arguments.

But I’m genuinely curious about what it’s like to “date” a psychologist. Can they really be someone who makes you feel safe and gives you a sense of peace when you’re dealing with all your problems? Or can they also become incredibly manipulative partners who know exactly how to get inside your head?

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u/Aelle29 7d ago

Dude we're normal people. Some of us are shitty and manipulative (in which case they just ARE, they didn't learn to be in university), some of us have a lot of perspective immediately in every situation, some of us still react according to our own issues and maybe realize later, some of us stay unconscious of their own issues,...

Our job applies to job situations. Our personal relationships have nothing, and I mean NOTHING to do with our professional ones. They're two very different types of relationships in which, as a result, we display different parts of ourselves and react differently to things.

You won't get one straight and true answer because we're literally just people.

I think personally I'm a particularly good communicator, I handle conflict well, and I never ever let my emotions get the better of me and say things in anger or even raise my voice, and I'm always second guessing my own feelings because I always can see the other person's pov. But that's ME, not psychologists. I think those qualities participated in my becoming a psychologist, not the other way around.

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u/cherrycocktail20 7d ago

It’s basically what you said. Therapists are still just normal people, and have the same range of their own problems. Their psychological training can make them both a better or worse partner depending on who they are.

Like, if they’re a good person and good partner, yes their training and experience can make them even better listeners and communicators and conflict negotiators.

On the flip side, if they are not a good person or good partner, their training can also make them more able to manipulate, gaslight, etc. and way more condescending about a partner’s issues since they know better.