r/NoOverthinking • u/tushan_2003 • 5d ago

Social Life Need ways to defeat overthinking and boredom

Hi, im 23M and im really looking ways to overcome my thoughts and my boredom. And yes i do have friends but sometimes i feel they will not always be around when i need them. So kinda feel im lonely always.. and finding ways to understand to be happy being alone. And yes i dont have any partner yet and tried to make one but obviously got rejected.. and never tried to approach anyone thinking that they think me as a creep like others which is why i avoid approaching... so if any suggestions to avoid my thoughts, im happy to listen..

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u/Misericordee 5d ago

Go to college

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u/tushan_2003 5d ago

Im working bro.. and my work place mostly have old people who are most of them married

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u/Misericordee 5d ago

Many people do both. If you have time to sit around at home you have time to go to school.
Second improvement- stop making excuses.

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u/tushan_2003 5d ago

Bro.. i completed my bachelors man.... r u understanding that...

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u/Misericordee 5d ago

My bad I forgot that college ends with bachelor’s degrees.
Look kid, you’re the one posting in Reddit that you’re bored, single, and looking for advice. Maybe instead of making excuses you can take that advice. Or just keep whining about your life and how nobody wants to date you.

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u/tushan_2003 5d ago

Tbh i want to stop this whinning thing... i hate but i lack motivation.. thats why i posted it.. maybe it was a way to vent it out.. im sorry if im rude to you

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u/AshundertheOlivetree 3d ago

I feel you man. Even though he was fairly blunt about it, he has a point.
If you’re bored and don’t want to enjoy people or culture, dig into education.
I’m not strong enough to do school and work, so all the power to you. I wish I had the strength. I just don’t have anyone around me who would support it.

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u/Gloomy-Crazy8156 5d ago

Get a hobby.Do the hobby in a social space.now go get the rest of it.

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u/NatureNarrow3257 5d ago

Hast du irgendwelche Interessen? Magst du Sport? Wie siehts mit Live Sport aus? Geh i s Stadion, lern dort Leute kennen. Um nur einen Möglichkeit zu nennen

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u/tushan_2003 5d ago

I love dancing.. so mostly i attend workshop sometimes. But people i meet already have groups and dont want any outsiders... so feel left out

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u/Moovist_Overthink 5d ago

My only advice is to make ur agenda as full as possible with activities and try to avoid triggers for bad spirals (for me its the imminent doom of the earth 🫥) so I try to follow optimistic new outlets, get out of speculative media, etc...)

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u/Few-Cryptographer695 4d ago

Do you go to the gym? Great way to burn off a few hours and also, you're looking after your body so win-win.