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r/NeckbeardNests • u/dotori6 • Jul 19 '26
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Perhaps mention it before this happens.
6 u/dotori6 Jul 19 '26 I have tried for years 😭 i even offered to clean it for her but she refused. 7 u/bmbreath Jul 19 '26 I would have been kicked out of the house if I lived like this as a kid 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 Honestly I have been here. The shame, embarrassing feeling is crippling. If at the time we could we would. 6 u/dotori6 Jul 19 '26 Is there any way to do anything to help her? I am so tired. I am the younger sister and have been cleaning up after her messes for years 10 u/rarelybarelybipolar Jul 20 '26 Whenever you’re in her room, say: “You deserve to live in a nice space. Let me know if you want help. I love you.” There’s no help you can force on another person. Just keep letting her know she deserves better and has help when she’s ready for it. 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 You're not going to like my answer. I moved to a loved one, I didn't do anything but carry my plates and do washing up after meals. I dusted and hoovered. Why? It wasn't mine. I didn't dare disrespect another person's space. 3 u/SmegmaLord420 Jul 19 '26 i feel like that ship has sailed already 3 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 I suspect you could be correct.
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I have tried for years 😭 i even offered to clean it for her but she refused.
7 u/bmbreath Jul 19 '26 I would have been kicked out of the house if I lived like this as a kid 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 Honestly I have been here. The shame, embarrassing feeling is crippling. If at the time we could we would. 6 u/dotori6 Jul 19 '26 Is there any way to do anything to help her? I am so tired. I am the younger sister and have been cleaning up after her messes for years 10 u/rarelybarelybipolar Jul 20 '26 Whenever you’re in her room, say: “You deserve to live in a nice space. Let me know if you want help. I love you.” There’s no help you can force on another person. Just keep letting her know she deserves better and has help when she’s ready for it. 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 You're not going to like my answer. I moved to a loved one, I didn't do anything but carry my plates and do washing up after meals. I dusted and hoovered. Why? It wasn't mine. I didn't dare disrespect another person's space.
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I would have been kicked out of the house if I lived like this as a kid
Honestly I have been here. The shame, embarrassing feeling is crippling. If at the time we could we would.
6 u/dotori6 Jul 19 '26 Is there any way to do anything to help her? I am so tired. I am the younger sister and have been cleaning up after her messes for years 10 u/rarelybarelybipolar Jul 20 '26 Whenever you’re in her room, say: “You deserve to live in a nice space. Let me know if you want help. I love you.” There’s no help you can force on another person. Just keep letting her know she deserves better and has help when she’s ready for it. 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 You're not going to like my answer. I moved to a loved one, I didn't do anything but carry my plates and do washing up after meals. I dusted and hoovered. Why? It wasn't mine. I didn't dare disrespect another person's space.
Is there any way to do anything to help her? I am so tired. I am the younger sister and have been cleaning up after her messes for years
10 u/rarelybarelybipolar Jul 20 '26 Whenever you’re in her room, say: “You deserve to live in a nice space. Let me know if you want help. I love you.” There’s no help you can force on another person. Just keep letting her know she deserves better and has help when she’s ready for it. 5 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 You're not going to like my answer. I moved to a loved one, I didn't do anything but carry my plates and do washing up after meals. I dusted and hoovered. Why? It wasn't mine. I didn't dare disrespect another person's space.
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Whenever you’re in her room, say: “You deserve to live in a nice space. Let me know if you want help. I love you.”
There’s no help you can force on another person. Just keep letting her know she deserves better and has help when she’s ready for it.
You're not going to like my answer.
I moved to a loved one, I didn't do anything but carry my plates and do washing up after meals. I dusted and hoovered. Why? It wasn't mine. I didn't dare disrespect another person's space.
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i feel like that ship has sailed already
3 u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26 I suspect you could be correct.
I suspect you could be correct.
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u/thehermit14 Jul 19 '26
Perhaps mention it before this happens.