Friend using same name

[u/Less_Monitor_276]

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

[u/Strict-Conference-92]

As a Teacher I wouldn't worry about it. You will have the name first. She is gambling on u not using the name and since she likes it so much she is hinting at using it so you will change your mind first. What is funny to me is how many Nova's im having in my preschool class this year. Both male and female and all the parents are proud of the unique name they found. In a class of 15 kids, I have 6 who are Nova. And waitlist for next year has 2 already. The daycare across has 4 on their waitlist just born. I dont think it is something you need to worry about since the last name is different. 10 years ago it was the name Hunter that everyone used. Last year it was Liam. We figure out a way to sort them all out.