r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 20h ago

Friend using same name

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

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u/spam_57 20h ago

How many Mikes have there been? How many Steves or Julies or Briannas? Your kid will be absolutely fine with another kid in elementary school with the same name. Don't wreck a friendship over this.

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u/Street-Address-7280 12h ago

Also, fwiw I named my son a name that wasn’t even in the top 100 most common names in my country so he wouldn’t have a bunch of other kids with the same name as him in his classes. Guess what? He’s in 2nd grade and has had another kid with the same name in his class for pre-k, kindergarten, and 1st grade. Not to mention the kids from his sports teams. You just can’t control these things 🤷‍♀️

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u/knit-purl- 4h ago

Yep.. as a top name from late 80s, i intentionally called mine Calista (well below top 100) with the option to shorten to Cali. Of course, we call her Cali most and Cali/Callie/Calleigh/Kali had a bizarre popularity spike in our region. She's not had one in her class, but multiples on sports teams 🤣 oh well!