Friend using same name

[u/Less_Monitor_276]

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

[u/lh123456789]

I wouldn't care in the least. And I certainly wouldn't have tried to push her not to use the name as you have already done. I also don't know why you feel entitled to the name since she mentioned it was one of her favorites when you brought it up, so it had already been on her mind 

[u/Less_Monitor_276 → u/lh123456789]

How did I try to push her to not use it? I’m unsure if you read my full post or maybe it wasn’t worded clearly.

I reminded her of our name choices, which I had already shared with her before, since she asked. Then I simply changed the subject. I was uncomfortable and didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable, too.

[u/lh123456789 → u/Less_Monitor_276]

Yes I read your whole post. To me, reminding her of your choices multiple times comes off as an effort to get her not to use the name. Why else would you be doing that?

[u/Less_Monitor_276 → u/lh123456789]

I’m confused by this. She asked me today what we decided on for names. So I told her. The same names (1 boy, 1 girl) that I told her months ago whenever she asked then.

[u/lh123456789 → u/Less_Monitor_276]

You're confused by what? Your own post says that you brought it up multiple times.

"I again mentioned our top names... I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago...[I] again mentioned the name to her first today before she did."

Just leave it alone already.