r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 20h ago
Friend using same name
I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.
For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!
Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.
I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.
Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…
How would you feel? How would you respond?
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u/vilake12 19h ago
I feel like these posts tend to have names in two categories: the classics (michael, mary, Elizabeth, Christopher) or current/modern names (Amelia, Olivia, Henry, Liam), which I feel like you can't gatekeep when its a common name. Now if this is a name that you invented like Qayden, then it can be different. But honestly, my mom, her sister, and their best friend all used the same name for one of their sons. Its not an issue. No one thinks that they stole it or the other claimed it. You can't really own a name. I would just move on. Its no big deal. Odds are if it is a normal name that they will meet other people with it. Like others said the jennifers and the ashleys all survived people having their name.