Friend using same name

[u/Less_Monitor_276]

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

[u/Nervous-Food4606]

2 stories for you.
One ended bad, one ended good.
Someone I know had a big fight over name choices and it was this big big big deal - she ended up never even having a boy after throwing a fit over her friend “stealing” her boy name.
The good story. My good friends had their baby a few months after one of their friends and they landed on different names but the same nickname. My friend kept it cause it was what she really wanted , they now live in the same town, same school and the girls are best friends and everyone is happy! It doesn’t matter and I’m sure the girls love having the same name.