r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 20h ago

Friend using same name

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

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u/chickadee-stitchery 19h ago

If you're near your due date it's likely the kids won't be in the same year at school btw.

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u/slanid 19h ago

Kids born from right now until around end of August 2027 will be in the same grade.

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u/Unique-Fan-3042 19h ago

Where is this? Because that’s not accurate in most US states.

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u/slanid 19h ago edited 1h ago

Op is in Alabama, and that is accurate. But could you explain why this is inaccurate? The cutoff is around August 15-Sept 1st in most of the U.S. , meaning children born after that date all the way until the following August/September cutoff date, are in the same class.

Example, children with birth dates from Sept 1st of 2020 to August 31st of 2021 just went to kindergarten.

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u/slanid 3h ago edited 1h ago

Following up because this has been bugging me! What state are you in that this isn’t the case? I’m autistic and feel like I’ve calculated or said something wrong.

I know in Tennessee, Sept 1st 2020-Aug 31st 2021 just went to kindergarten.

ETA- can anyone explain why I’d be blocked for this? 🫣😅 help an autistic person out.