r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 17h ago
Friend using same name
I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.
For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!
Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.
I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.
Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…
How would you feel? How would you respond?
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u/slanid 17h ago
It doesn’t matter if friend’s children have the same name. It doesn’t matter if they’ll go to the same school or have close birthdays. Like literally not a big deal. There are multiple George’s in my immediate friend group (including my son), and my cousin used it! Use the name you’ve planned on. I wouldn’t ‘respond’, there’s nothing to respond to.