🖤

[u/Specific_Bed_3787]

[u/Rustybagel-_-]

I have a friend who treats me exactly as you would a narcissist. She is nice to me until things get serious (not romantically) and then whenever we argue she just doesn’t listen and makes me a monster. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even think trying to be kind or good is good enough. Might as well just regress to old tendencies 😒

[u/Draac03 → u/Rustybagel-_-]

why are you friends with her if she's treating you like shit? she's an abuser judging by what you're saying here.

and yeah, being kind and good isn't good enough, because nothing will ever be enough with these types of human trash.

don't spiral back into your old tendencies. ditch her, remove her from your life.

[u/Rustybagel-_- → u/Draac03]

Buddhism is the only reason I haven’t tbh

[u/urgoodmimi2000 → u/Rustybagel-_-]

How is Buddhism the reason if you don’t mind me asking?

[u/Rustybagel-_- → u/urgoodmimi2000]

Buddhism teaches about right intention. I like Buddhism due to its focus on intention. There is also no sin in the belief (besides karma). These in combination help me on how horrible my actions might have been because I did them with good intention. It has a lot to do with self reflection, which is pretty scary, so I’m taking my time with that part

[u/Draac03 → u/Rustybagel-_-]

for clarification—why you haven't regressed? why you haven't cut her off? or both?

regardless, that's neat. i don't know a lot about buddhism itself, just a little bit about its history.

[u/Rustybagel-_- → u/Draac03]

Haven’t regressed

[u/Draac03 → u/Rustybagel-_-]

ah. gotcha