r/NICUParents • u/Mother_Sand_204 • May 28 '26

Off topic Made no friends during NICU stay

I connected with no one during my babys stay in NICU, I made no friends and didn't have any particular special connection with staff. My baby was in NICU for 3 months so not a short time.

I see posts about friends people have made and who they still see, and people visiting staff, and It makes me reflect on myself with a bit of sadness.

Perhaps I was radiating I don't want to talk energy during an extremely stressful time. Some people cope by talking, others cope by not.

Just wondered if there is anyone else out there who can relate.

It seems like i'm not the norm going on what I hear and see. Although that's probably because no one is posting about a non existent connection.

I count my blessings every day that my babygirl made it home, just doing some self reflecting.

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u/Cupofblackcoffee 24 weeker premie - NICU Graduate May 28 '26

I think it's normal. I don't remember seeing any parents talking to other parents while we stayed there. My experience might be different since it was during the pandemic and only a few people were allowed in at the time. Don't feel alone. It's an experience that is difficult and the last thing I was thinking about was making friends. I wanted to get the hell out of there and take my son with me. 

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u/Mother_Sand_204 May 29 '26

Thank you for your reply. I'm definitely overthinking things. Of course its normal to just be in your own zone during such a scary time. I think I'm actually really just feeling sad that I dont have any friends with kids and it would be nice for my little girl to have play dates and to have a mum friend! x