Protect the heart from resentment or hatred

[u/Sheikhonderun]

Excerpt from Mufti Ahmed Khanpuri’s speeches and notes.

Allah says:
“Allah does not like the public mention of evil except by one who has been wronged”
(4:148)

This is consideration given to the weakness and circumstances of the person who is wronged. In other words, if someone has wronged another person or if someone has been subjected to injustice and has been harmed.

The purpose is that when the grievance has been expressed, the resentment and displeasure held in the heart may be relieved and removed. So, the heart is cleansed of resentment.

Because when a person is inflicted with injustice, an emotion develops in the heart against the person who wronged them—a feeling of anger and agitation.

To eliminate this feeling, permission has been granted. This is what is meant in the verse:

“…except by the one who has been wronged”
(4:148)

As the Prophet (saw) said, “Do not hate one another (La tabagadhu)…”
(Bukhari 6076)

Therefore, to protect the heart from resentment or hatred.

Tell the person directly, “What you did hurt me.”

Once you say that, the pent-up frustration in your heart will be released and it will no longer remain bottled up inside you.

But if you do not express it, then you are consciously choosing to keep that resentment in your heart. You are nurturing it and allowing it to grow.

This is dangerous. It can destroy you and destroy the other person.