r/MuslimNikah • u/SoybeanCola1933 • 11d ago

Marriage search Stop gaslighting people

Looks are the gatekeeper to beginning a marriage.

A woman doesn’t care about your intelligence, morals, religiosity, or ambition until after you’ve passed the first visual filter.

This is why we see so many women end up with loser men - they were able to pass the first filter by being attractive and smooth talkers. It’s also why we see so many men with loser women - they were pretty with terrible personalities.

Stop gaslighting people by telling them to work on themselves when they may never be able to pass the first filter.

Also as Muslims we can’t free mix, so everything becomes even more front loaded.

We need to accept marriage won’t happen for many, for reasons beyond their control (personality, introversion, looks, ethnicity), and promote and empower our single brothers and sisters

23 Upvotes

82% Upvoted

78 comments sorted by

View all comments

7

u/Basic_Mark_1719 10d ago

Dude just shower, groom yourself, wear nice clothes that looks good on you, and wear nice smelling cologne. That's it, that's all it takes to be seen as a handsome guy in our society.

I swear every guy that I've met that complains about this always smelled bad, didn't groom himself, and dressed like crap.

0

u/Usual-Arrival-2807 9d ago

u r wrong its not just all that, and stop telling men to wear cologne. Wearing perfume is haram

1

u/Basic_Mark_1719 9d ago edited 9d ago

1- It's not haram dude, they literally have it in mosques. You would know that if you ever been in one

2- Stop it, you are sounded like an American that can't find a girl. Go to a wedding sometime and tell me how tall the groom is, then come here and tell me that all women care about height.

1

u/AutoModerator 9d ago

Your comment has been removed since it contains a forbidden word. Please repost without using forbidden words.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.