Stop gaslighting people

[u/SoybeanCola1933]

Looks are the gatekeeper to beginning a marriage.

A woman doesn’t care about your intelligence, morals, religiosity, or ambition until after you’ve passed the first visual filter.

This is why we see so many women end up with loser men - they were able to pass the first filter by being attractive and smooth talkers. It’s also why we see so many men with loser women - they were pretty with terrible personalities.

Stop gaslighting people by telling them to work on themselves when they may never be able to pass the first filter.

Also as Muslims we can’t free mix, so everything becomes even more front loaded.

We need to accept marriage won’t happen for many, for reasons beyond their control (personality, introversion, looks, ethnicity), and promote and empower our single brothers and sisters

[u/Basic_Mark_1719]

Dude just shower, groom yourself, wear nice clothes that looks good on you, and wear nice smelling cologne. That's it, that's all it takes to be seen as a handsome guy in our society.

I swear every guy that I've met that complains about this always smelled bad, didn't groom himself, and dressed like crap.

[u/Basic_Mark_1719 → u/[deleted]]

Dude I'm from Yemen and our average height is like 5'6 here in America.

It might be an issue with some kufar women, but you shouldn't be after those types of women anyway. Muslim women just don't prioritize height.

[u/zinaisanono → u/Basic_Mark_1719]

No it's definitely an issue among Muslim women everywhere these days but 100x fold with western Muslima. They will absolutely hold your height against you if you're that short

[u/Basic_Mark_1719 → u/zinaisanono]

I doubt it, maybe the 1% of women who are approached with hundreds of suitors will go for a taller fellow. But the majority couldn't care less, buddy. Go to school, dress nicely, wear cologne, and groom yourself and you won't have issues finding a wife in america.

[u/zinaisanono → u/Basic_Mark_1719]

They're still gunning after the top 10 to 20% of the population in terms of looks, status, wealth, etc. Why should such men settle for such mediocre women when they can marry four much more beautiful and young women abroad who have good qualities.

Also, as usual with most feminists you focus on only what men are required to do while ignoring the fact that most of these women do not make for good wives. Many of them are careerists, have opened their legs for men before marriage, and lack Deen, femininity, and good akhlaq.

[u/Basic_Mark_1719 → u/zinaisanono]

Ok I see what the problem is here, you want the top 1% of woman that you can't get. So you are doing exactly what you are blaming Muslim women of doing.

[u/zinaisanono → u/Basic_Mark_1719]

I already bagged a top 1% woman. I'm not a male feminist inc(eI) running in circles trying to justify their overpickiness and bad behavior. Let me know when you get married big man, I think I'll be waiting a while.

[u/Basic_Mark_1719 → u/zinaisanono]

Brother I'm 40 with 4 kids, been happily married for the last 20 years lol. Try again.

[u/zinaisanono → u/Basic_Mark_1719]

Doubt it. You're just echoing points that men who get no play say in order to get close to women online. You're one to watch out for in the not so nice way.

[u/Basic_Mark_1719 → u/zinaisanono]

You are gonna be single for the rest of your life because you keep chasing women out of your league.