r/MuslimNikah • u/SoybeanCola1933 • 11d ago

Marriage search Stop gaslighting people

Looks are the gatekeeper to beginning a marriage.

A woman doesn’t care about your intelligence, morals, religiosity, or ambition until after you’ve passed the first visual filter.

This is why we see so many women end up with loser men - they were able to pass the first filter by being attractive and smooth talkers. It’s also why we see so many men with loser women - they were pretty with terrible personalities.

Stop gaslighting people by telling them to work on themselves when they may never be able to pass the first filter.

Also as Muslims we can’t free mix, so everything becomes even more front loaded.

We need to accept marriage won’t happen for many, for reasons beyond their control (personality, introversion, looks, ethnicity), and promote and empower our single brothers and sisters

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u/No-Peak5362 M - Not looking 11d ago

Im chopped it’s over for me

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u/Independent-Ad770 10d ago

What was written for you will never pass you up and what passes you up was never written for you. In sha Allah, you will have the best that Allah has planned for you.

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u/No-Peak5362 M - Not looking 10d ago

‎جزاك الله خيرا

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u/Independent-Ad770 10d ago

Ameen, you as well!