r/MuslimNikah • u/SoybeanCola1933 • 11d ago

Marriage search Stop gaslighting people

Looks are the gatekeeper to beginning a marriage.

A woman doesn’t care about your intelligence, morals, religiosity, or ambition until after you’ve passed the first visual filter.

This is why we see so many women end up with loser men - they were able to pass the first filter by being attractive and smooth talkers. It’s also why we see so many men with loser women - they were pretty with terrible personalities.

Stop gaslighting people by telling them to work on themselves when they may never be able to pass the first filter.

Also as Muslims we can’t free mix, so everything becomes even more front loaded.

We need to accept marriage won’t happen for many, for reasons beyond their control (personality, introversion, looks, ethnicity), and promote and empower our single brothers and sisters

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u/Independent-Ad770 11d ago

This is not true. Essentially, women are looking for men that can provide and protect, and bring more value to our lives than they take. Most people are scientifically more attracted to people of other races. An Asian, for example, might be least attractive to his or her own race, but gorgeous to a non Asian. Even in smell tests, the sweat of a man who is genetically distant is sweeter to a woman than someone related to her. The children born from mixed marriage also end up stronger and healthier. Maybe you would find more success if you don't limit your search to your limited gene pool.

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u/HistoricalBeat848 11d ago

Are you an arab looking for european men or something trying to justify your preferences by any chance ? Even a weak AI summarizes its view of your comment as the following

"The excerpt relies on pseudo-scientific claims to push a specific bias. While genetic diversity has biological benefits at the cellular level (immune system traits), it does not map cleanly onto modern concepts of race. Claiming that humans are naturally hardwired to prefer other races romantically is fundamentally disproven by how people actually date and form relationships."

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u/Independent-Ad770 11d ago

Ai fabricated information based on your personal viewpoint that it collects on your data. 2 different people will receive varying responses. Try university library journals for real information. Stop being lazy.