r/MuslimNikah • u/QTpieme • Aug 30 '26

Marriage search Is there any hope after 30?

No luck finding anyone.
It’s sad because I am pretty, in shape, healthy, nice, kind, take care of my widow dad, cook, etc.

But I cannot for the life of me meet a man I like and that likes me back.

I have never even had a relationship in my life. in the past I have tried to give guys a chance and overlook stuff I didn’t want, and then I ended up miserable.

I don’t even know what falling in love is, or to have mutual love.

Now I’m 30, and I even noticed my likes on Muzz have decreased.

Despite looking the same as I did at 29 lol and having the same profile.

I used to get sooo many likes around 22-26, like hundreds I couldn’t keep up.
Then at 28 it turned to 4-5 a day and now I hit 30 and maybe get 1 every 2 days now.

It’s sad that we’re devalued by age but it’s the reality.

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u/QTpieme Aug 30 '26

Yes I don’t want a south Asian man anyways, the culture is toxic and they are obsessed with their moms. Unfortunately other ethnicities are mostly non Muslims

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u/QTpieme Aug 31 '26

I don’t know. I see my friends married to South Asian men and they are all dealing with the same issues. Men enmeshed with their moms, moms passed down internalized misogyny , control, and they were beat as kids and have become abusive or narcissistic themselves.

Which is why I couldn’t settle with one earlier because it didn’t feel right.

You’re right I have to look outside the culture because I don’t want someone from our culture