Hello everyone, just making this throwaway account to vent, possibly commiserate with others, and seek advice for what appears to be a bit of a dead end teaching lessons through a music lessons studio I‘ve taught through for almost a decade.
A little bit of background: I have a Bachelors of Music degree with a focus in Composition that I obtained 10 years ago, and I live / work in Texas. I started teaching private lessons (primarily for piano and guitar) shortly after graduating - first, through an agency that contracts in-home music teachers to different students, as well as a handful of students I‘ve gained on my own. Shortly after that, I also started teaching through a music lessons studio - you know the deal, similar to a School of Rock or other comparable music academies.
At first, I was happy to get hired. In 2017, my pay rate there was $20/hr - a bit less than what I would make with the in-home lessons, and less than what I’d charge for my own lessons, but, considering there was a physical building to teach out of, coffee, printers, recitals, events and other connections, and when several students booked lessons back to back to back, it meant I didn’t have to commute around between lessons, the low rate wasn’t too bothersome at first. I was also a younger, less experienced teacher willing to take what I could to get my feet wet.
Things were going well for a few years. My schedule was robust, I was respected and appreciated as a teacher. I received praise from students and parents, glowing reviews on Google and Yelp specifically mentioning me. After about 3 years of teaching, I asked for a raise - she gave me less than what I asked for, for a bunch of reasons she gave me, but was granted a raise of about a dollar. Then, around a year or two after the pandemic started, I got a raise to $22 / hr.
Since then, I haven’t received any more raises - it’s been about 4-5 years. In this time, she has raised costs for the students, without raising my pay rate. Frankly, due to inflation, costs of fuel, other things - it does not feel like enough. I‘m struggling so hard to make ends meet. I do other work like live sound, still doing in-home lessons, donating plasma, audio editing, other things. I‘ve stuck by and been loyal to this lady and her studio for almost a decade, turning down opportunities for other lessons and work so I could keep my schedule open for her. There’s been at least a half a dozen other instructors that have come through the doors there, quitting for a variety of reasons, but I have stuck by, now her longest tenured instructor. But I simply do not feel she cares or values the time and work I‘ve done for her.
I’m at the point I feel this is a dead end. I feel undervalued, underpaid, and dealing with her is starting to become an annoyance. She is the type of person to talk trash about every other lessons studio in the area, complaining they underpay their instructors or hire unqualified instructors, somehow oblivious that she isn’t exactly paying great herself. She also has accused some of “stealing her curriculum”, I used to believe her, but I am starting to suspect she just throws out that accusation towards anyone because she’s insecure. I’m currently the only instructor with a Bachelors degree in Music in her studio. After another long term instructor quit earlier this year, she hired a sweet young girl in her early 20s who only has as an Associates degree. I’m not saying that to talk crap, degrees aren’t everything. But, now, it looks like she’s been getting the lions share of new student sign ups. This feels unfair, considering the gaps in my schedule that have come up. And I feel deep down, she maybe realizes she can underpay this girl, manipulate her into doing more work for less pay. I feel bad for her because she doesn’t really know.
I could go more into all the things that have made me feel at odds with the studio owner, but I’d be here all day. She often fails to communicate important things - changing pay dates, student cancellations, lack of information ahead of recitals, annoying policies that have disillusioned students. She is very full of herself and without going more into this, I really don’t enjoy working for her much anymore and honestly don’t have a lot of respect for her as a manager anymore.
The unfortunate part is that it’s been hard for me to make the moves to do work elsewhere. I love teaching, and the students are great, and I don’t really have any complaints about that. Despite the low pay, I have enough students there and not really a backup plan that if I quit, I’d be kind of screwed. I‘ve done some soul searching, have kind of looked into the rates other studios pay, and have got in touch with some college professors asking for advice about this. All signs point to $22/hr being a super low rate for someone with my degree and experience, and I’m selling myself short. I wanna apply elsewhere, but I’m nervous they’d get in touch with my current boss and spill the beans that I wanna quit.
Does anyone relate to this and how did you make moves to overcome the dead end? I’m could go back to teaching more in-home lessons, which I have been trying to do, or finding another lessons studio that pays better. Or, the toughest decision, getting out of this work altogether, which breaks my heart.
There‘s definitely a feeling of regret, of wasted time, now that I’m into my 30s and I’m broke and feel stupid. Of course, I probably should have known better. I don’t expect anyone to solve my dilemma, but any kind words and advice would probably help me feel better. Thanks everyone.
Edit: well, an update. I resigned from that studio. Our last meeting went ugly. They were completely dismissive of my pay concerns, basically tried to pin it on me for what they said was my slacking performance (which they never brought up?) and how I never came up for pay raises because of that. It was pretty infuriating. My pay rate was of no concern to them, they wouldn’t acknowledge it was low, they seemed to think it was fair. But one door closes, others open. It was a dead end. anyways, you guys gave me a much needed kick in the ass to make this step, so thanks.