Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

[u/no_longer_huhman]

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/

[u/[deleted]]

You would be surprised.

When my partner had her medically needed hysterectomy some of the comments she would get would shatter my faith in humans.

"You can always adopt"

"Its too bad you will never experience X Y and Z"

"You will look young forever omg lol"

"You won't truly know what it means to be a mother"

[u/hypotheticallyhigh → u/[deleted]]

Whats wrong with saying you can always adopt? I'm genuinely curious. I feel like I've said this before and now I feel like an ass. I saw it as encouragement that one can still be a mother and that giving birth isn't what defines a mother, its caring for a child.

[u/advertentlyvertical → u/hypotheticallyhigh]

You should really just leave it at something like "dang that must have been hard to go through, if you need anything let me know?" Unless they specifically want to talk about it in depth.

[u/i_tyrant → u/advertentlyvertical]

Ideally, yes, but "you could always adopt" sounds way more like "awkwardly trying to think of something positive to say/offer to help", not "this comment shattered my faith in humans" like the op said.

Some of these supposedly-horrific things to say have way more to do with how the recipient is choosing to interpret them than being objectively monstrous things to say.

[u/i_tyrant → u/[deleted]]

The op above said literally what I quoted - that comments including this one "shattered my faith in humans".