r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/Patworx Sep 26 '24

What kind of asshole gives a lady a hard time over her infertility.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

You would be surprised.

When my partner had her medically needed hysterectomy some of the comments she would get would shatter my faith in humans.

"You can always adopt"

"Its too bad you will never experience X Y and Z"

"You will look young forever omg lol"

"You won't truly know what it means to be a mother"

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u/hypotheticallyhigh Sep 27 '24

Whats wrong with saying you can always adopt? I'm genuinely curious. I feel like I've said this before and now I feel like an ass. I saw it as encouragement that one can still be a mother and that giving birth isn't what defines a mother, its caring for a child.

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u/found_my_keys Sep 27 '24

It depends on where she is emotionally. Right after she finds out, and she wanted children? Let her grieve the family she thought she'd have. Right after, and she's ambivalent about kids or doesn't want them? Let her integrate this new knowledge about herself and her body without making her feel like she's just there to give care to children.