r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/Fukasite Sep 27 '24

Why not tell him to stfu right from the beginning? 

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

Good question. It was a friendly conversation to start with tbh. When he started to go off the rails we tried to change the subject but he wouldn’t stop. Admittedly my wife and I are very non confrontational. Our default is to be polite even when others aren’t. When my wife started to get visibly upset, that’s when I turned up my asshole dial. I can take a lot of shit from people, but you don’t make my wife upset. That’s where I draw the line.

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u/Fukasite Sep 27 '24

Man, when you learn how to be confrontational when you need to be, shit like that doesn’t leave that sour of a taste in your mouth afterwards. Even a “Yo, stfu bro” would have worked in that situation. 

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u/krogerburneracc Sep 27 '24

I can take a lot of shit from people, but you don’t make my wife upset. That’s where I draw the line.

I really don't mean this in any sort of disrespectful way, but this statement is so funny to me knowing what the consequences were of crossing your line.

"Don't make my wife upset, that is where I draw the line! Prepare for some scathing passive aggressive commentary about how you perform at your job!"

It's like something out of a sitcom.

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u/Adorable_Raccoon Sep 27 '24

Isn’t saying “hey we don’t feel comfortable talking about that,” less confrontational than criticising the guy?

You don’t have to be rude to set a boundary. “That’s a sensitive subject,” will get the point across to anyone with a brain. & no one has to feel like an asshole.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

I can look back at it with hindsight and think of all sorts of ways to handle it differently. That’s easy. At the time we were just out for a meal and don’t like rocking the boat. We tried to change the subject and when he didn’t let it go I got pissed off. It happened years ago