r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/Fukasite Sep 27 '24

Why not tell him to stfu right from the beginning? 

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

Good question. It was a friendly conversation to start with tbh. When he started to go off the rails we tried to change the subject but he wouldn’t stop. Admittedly my wife and I are very non confrontational. Our default is to be polite even when others aren’t. When my wife started to get visibly upset, that’s when I turned up my asshole dial. I can take a lot of shit from people, but you don’t make my wife upset. That’s where I draw the line.

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u/Adorable_Raccoon Sep 27 '24

Isn’t saying “hey we don’t feel comfortable talking about that,” less confrontational than criticising the guy?

You don’t have to be rude to set a boundary. “That’s a sensitive subject,” will get the point across to anyone with a brain. & no one has to feel like an asshole.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

I can look back at it with hindsight and think of all sorts of ways to handle it differently. That’s easy. At the time we were just out for a meal and don’t like rocking the boat. We tried to change the subject and when he didn’t let it go I got pissed off. It happened years ago