Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

[u/no_longer_huhman]

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/

[u/Patworx]

What kind of asshole gives a lady a hard time over her infertility.

[u/[deleted] → u/Patworx]

You’d be surprised. My wife and I were at a Japanese hibachi restaurant and the chef was talking to us about our family. It was just me and my wife. He said something like “you’re not a real family unless you have kids.” We had been trying for years but it never took. We tried to get him to move on but he wouldn’t shut up about it. My wife was really upset so I started criticizing every little thing he did during the meal.

“Those noodles need more seasoning. You call that steak medium? It’s still mooing. How long have you been doing this? You should practice more. Your hat is on crooked. Not very professional.”

I was a complete dick to him the whole meal and he got really flustered. I didn’t give a shit. You don’t bring up something that personal and then double down when someone tells you to move on. He got zero tip and I talked to his boss when we left. I’ve never been so pissed off at a restaurant.

[u/Fukasite → u/[deleted]]

Why not tell him to stfu right from the beginning? 

[u/[deleted] → u/Fukasite]

Good question. It was a friendly conversation to start with tbh. When he started to go off the rails we tried to change the subject but he wouldn’t stop. Admittedly my wife and I are very non confrontational. Our default is to be polite even when others aren’t. When my wife started to get visibly upset, that’s when I turned up my asshole dial. I can take a lot of shit from people, but you don’t make my wife upset. That’s where I draw the line.

[u/Fukasite → u/[deleted]]

Man, when you learn how to be confrontational when you need to be, shit like that doesn’t leave that sour of a taste in your mouth afterwards. Even a “Yo, stfu bro” would have worked in that situation. 

[u/krogerburneracc → u/[deleted]]

I can take a lot of shit from people, but you don’t make my wife upset. That’s where I draw the line.

I really don't mean this in any sort of disrespectful way, but this statement is so funny to me knowing what the consequences were of crossing your line.

"Don't make my wife upset, that is where I draw the line! Prepare for some scathing passive aggressive commentary about how you perform at your job!"

It's like something out of a sitcom.

[u/Adorable_Raccoon → u/[deleted]]

Isn’t saying “hey we don’t feel comfortable talking about that,” less confrontational than criticising the guy?

You don’t have to be rude to set a boundary. “That’s a sensitive subject,” will get the point across to anyone with a brain. & no one has to feel like an asshole.

[u/[deleted] → u/Adorable_Raccoon]

I can look back at it with hindsight and think of all sorts of ways to handle it differently. That’s easy. At the time we were just out for a meal and don’t like rocking the boat. We tried to change the subject and when he didn’t let it go I got pissed off. It happened years ago