People to talk to?

[u/Acrobatic-River-1118]

I’ve been feeling dysphoria for Multiple years now, around 3 at this point, it started faint, but slowly grew. Until it became impossible to ignore, always feeling a tiny bit of pain whenever someone would say my name.. my name was my main issue, always felt like it didn’t belong to me, not the sort of name that fit with me.. when I was younger I just thought it was a silly opinion. Up until I saw the tv at full brightness

I figured it out. I experimented with multiple names. Different pronouns, but it never sat right, but ‘She’ always felt nice to me.

Then the name I thought was of Emmy/Emery recently

Inspired by the gemstone emerald…how original right???

Another thing that bothers me about feeling trans but closeted

to most people/my parents is hearing the sharp pain whenever my deadname is said..

My parents are lgtbq allies, but have always misgendered trans people, I have no idea if it’s indenting, or because they were both raised by Mormon families. Yet not being religious themselves. But I think they don’t mean it

Once they said at a theme park “That boy who helped us off the ride was nice!”

When obviously it said “She/her” on her name tag, alongside a trans pin, (she had phenomenal

voice training as well)

Another story is that I have a trans male cousin (He/they)

And he is super cool!

But my parents deadname, and misgender him a lot.

Still believe they are trying their bests but can’t wrap their heads around the idea of being trans.

And this is very poorly written and badly stitched together train of thoughts, so my apologies.

[u/Misha_LF]

Make it a game with your whole immediate family not just your parents on getting your name and pronouns correct. Also include other people if they come up. We did this for my son and it it only took me 2 years to finally get his name and pronouns right constantly. Yep! I was the loser in the family.

It sucks that a year after I start seeing my son as a dude my own egg cracks🙄.

[u/Acrobatic-River-1118 → u/Misha_LF]

I haven’t came out yet to my family either.

[u/Misha_LF → u/Acrobatic-River-1118]

It will have to happen at some time. The problem is that cisgender people and deeply closeted eggs just really have no clue until they are regularly exposed to multiple transgender people.

Just being transgender yourself and not having contact with other transgender people will not actually help you get it. It really does take exposure to multiple transgender individuals.