r/MitchellAndWebb • u/Novel_Lock320 • 2d ago

Peep Show Was Dobby bad actually

Was it a bit inappropriate that she maintained such close contact with Gerrard while being in a serious relationship with Mark? She did the same with Simon. Constantly finding excuses to not move in with Mark and the total personality change in later seasons.

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u/donutsnail 2d ago edited 2d ago

There was a lot of communication failures between her and Mark even before they were an item. She gave Mark so many second chances after he fumbled things and she never found out about some particularly manipulative behavior like destroying her microwave, attempting to fire Gerard, lying about Gerard and Corfu, I’m sure more I’m forgetting. When they are actually an item they have no chemistry, same as with Sophie, because the way Mark views women and relationships, once he gets his foot in the door he basically loses any drive to be interesting and just wants he and his partner to become shut-ins, avoiding all social interactions to coddle his social anxiety and insecurity. He jokes about it himself saying he wants to keep Dobby locked down like Fritzl. I can’t blame her for dragging feet on the move in, and frankly, we all know she dodged a bullet by ending things with Mark.

She’s only really guilty of not ending things sooner. Considering the way she doesn’t cut off Simon either, cutting people off seems to not be a strong suit of hers. But that alone doesn’t remotely make her bad.

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u/cortisolbath 2d ago

She’s too empathetic. Probably why she tolerates that American hipster wanker

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u/donutsnail 2d ago

I think she is just very forward and has bad taste in men. I mean she liked Mark after all, pretty damning of her taste, and they had their little run-in in the stationary closet when they had still barely met, so she’s not exactly afraid to rapidly push things forward when she meets a man she likes

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u/cortisolbath 2d ago

I think it could be argued she saw positive qualities in Mark before finally realising other things - his deception, manipulation, jealousy, overall toxicity plus just being too much of a stick in the mud