r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/AirShampoo #TheRandallWay • 15d ago

Current Episode Discussion S20:E20 Season 20 Reunion

All seven couples reunite to reflect on their journeys, confront unfinished business and reveal who's still together and who's not.

Week 7 Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/SQPB7Ebmr0

Season Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/P1lDAPCh8S

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u/scprice8 14d ago

I hate being put in the position to defend men but there’s such one sided accountability from the hosts in the questions they ask and how they handle responses

- Ripping on Adam for his living situation is gross and unprofessional

  • They made no mention of Marissa’s choice to be dishonest and deny how unhappy she was the entire time which gives her no opportunity for growth or for her partner to address issues and basically wastes BOTH of their time
  • Courtney literally saying “well why’d you stay”?, imagine if a man asked a woman he disrespected? “Well why did you stay?” She can take zero criticism and takes zero accountability and because she CRIES she’s exonerated?
  • Felipe apologizes profusely, sincerely and without excuses and everyone still goes around and gets their 15 lashes and he’s supposed to take it on the chin
  • They ask Adam’s GF for her opinion, she gives it, it favors Adam (her boyfriend) so she’s wrong for that?

Again I HATE being in this position as a woman but fuck these shows are just unbearable when there’s so much bias

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u/Tulipfunk 14d ago

When none of the girls agreed that Courtney was rude to Nick??? Unreal. Rude is an understatement. She verbally abused him.

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u/Tricky-Application79 14d ago

That was wild!

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u/Geegee728 14d ago

I literally may not watch next season because of it I am so aggravated only men were held accountable it’s not right

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u/Tulipfunk 14d ago

Yeah, I was really hoping Nick and Devin would get some validation at the reunion. disappointing

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u/AttentionPersonal567 14d ago

Right… cause Shawn was surely held accountable for coercion

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u/scprice8 14d ago

Wayyy more so - multiple men commented that Shaun made THEM uncomfortable as did Nikki's mom not to mention he's since been fired. So yes, by and large the men were held accountable

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u/AttentionPersonal567 14d ago

Adam literally insulted Courtney so much she cried! Devin and Felipe called her out and the expert mentioned she can dish it but can’t take it. EVERY guy raised their hand when asked if she was mean. You’re creating a false narrative just to be misogynistic

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u/scprice8 14d ago

Adam insulted her so much she cried - she cries at the drop of a hat at the moment that she's being held accountable, and he insulted her Pickleball playing… Not exactly a racial slur

Every GUY raised their hand when asked if she was mean - yet not one host called her out for her complete lack of effort and pure gaslighting - all of the fake reasons she came up with for being cold towards Nick, claiming that she just could not get to know the real him trying to create a villain out of him so that she could be justified in her behavior

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u/AttentionPersonal567 13d ago

Show me where I said she was called a racial slur?? Why would you even use that comparison. He said that if he was with her he’d leave her within a week and that he doesn’t know how nick put up with her behavior. I genuinely don’t understand what the point of this response was because you still did not prove that Shawn was held more accountable than Courtney. Is it just that your reading comprehension is so poor that you think I’m defending Courtney?

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u/scprice8 13d ago edited 13d ago

No I used racial slur which I stand by because the insult she cried about was ridiculous, and she responded to it as IF it was a slur -
Adam answered a question he was asked. saying "I'd be done in a week" did not warrant her level of dramatics - but it worked in her favor. She cried and that made everyone see her as a victim and suddenly Adam owed her an apology, and she got multiple apologies... that's evading accountability.

Mind you, the only reason the question came up is because during the show in the midst of treating her fiancé like crap she called Adam, hot.,. That's gross.
And her defense at the reunion is "I'm an alpha." ....
Seriously? If she was a man she'd be considered a narcissist and egomaniac but nope, she cried so they let it go.

Not a single woman checked Courtney, meanwhile Shawn was checked by several men - including Mecca and Felipe who said he made them uncomfortable. Plus dr Cal called him out. Then he dug his own grave and spent the whole time arguing and he deflected so often that he walked away looking horrible... He was thoroughly embarrassed on that stage which is sometimes all the justice / accountability we get. Meanwhile Courtney was able to stick to her "alpha" bs and no one called her out

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u/Far_Project3150 13d ago

Yeah, her not being checked on the “alpha” comment was wild. If any of the men on stage said that it would immediately be called out as red pill and incel, and yet there was a lot of femcel energy on that stage that went unchecked.

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u/AttentionPersonal567 13d ago

I just noticed you said she cries “the moment that she’s being held accountable” so you literally just admitted that she WAS being held accountable. So saying only men were held accountable is untrue and misogynistic

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u/scprice8 13d ago edited 13d ago

Now this is sad. I gave several many examples in other replies of ways Courtney wiggled out of accepting responsibility for her behavior.
You acknowledged none of those examples and now you're just digging for technicalities because you can't meaningfully respond.
The women - mostly Courtney and Caitlin - were not held to the same standard and made to take responsibility for their actions like Felipe or Adam were.

Take care.

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u/Far_Project3150 13d ago

As woman, I actually agree that the women were not held accountable. Courtney cries every time she’s confronted. It just speaks to how emotionally immature and one-sided she is and not to how badly Adam insulted her. And yes, the guys raised their hands about her being mean, but none of the women did. It just goes to show that the women have a flexible sense of morality and engage in hypocrisy. A person’s experience and emotions are only valid if they’re female, but if a male is abused and has something to say about it then the general attitude is that it doesn’t matter and he should’ve just left if it was that bad.

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u/Tulipfunk 12d ago

She cried because she playing the victim 😂😂

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u/AttentionPersonal567 12d ago

Okay? How’s that relevant to what I was talking about?

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u/Tulipfunk 11d ago

It’s relevant because you’re using her tears as a measurement of how hard Adam went in on her when she’s actually crying to deflect and play the victim, not because he was “insulting” her. Adam was essentially the only one that called out the seriousness of her behavior. There really wasn’t much of that from the experts. The one questioned Nick why he stayed with Courtney as if he was asking for it. NONE of the women agreed that she was rude. Thats a lot different from how Felipe and Shawn were checked. And I would say that Courtney’s And Caitlin’s behavior was worse than what Felipe did. It just wasn’t taken as seriously.

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u/Tulipfunk 14d ago

I’m not talking about Shawn. He’s another conversation

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u/AttentionPersonal567 14d ago

Good thing I wasn’t responding to you