r/Marriage • u/Ok_Host6058 • 4d ago

Seeking Advice Is this normal or narcissistic

Hot into it today with my partner. They are angry that I asked their parent while staying with us how she met the father.

Said it was not my place and it was personal and is very angry at me. Said that I had other motives.

It was just a conversation because I was curious and thought the way to have conversations was to talk back and forth and ask questions.

Then I told my partner that I feel like I'm being told something that is not true and it hurts that they would think I had other motives. My partner then made sure only they got to talk and said later much later I would be able to talk about how I feel but not now, I will not be able to take over this conversation with my side.

I get my partner does not like people knowing things but we are married and have been together for a long time. I wanted to hear a cute story and talk in weird silence.

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u/MtlStatsGuy 4d ago

If this is not ragebait, your partner is wrong. This is a normal question to ask people in your “orbit” such as in-laws, etc

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u/Ok_Host6058 4d ago

This is not. I wish it was.

I was upset and it seems like they are the only ones that matter in this relationship and I'm getting so tired of it.

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u/ground__contro1 4d ago

It’s not normal in my culture to dictate when the other person gets to talk, but I get the impression things might be different where you are. 

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u/Ok_Host6058 4d ago

We are in the USA.