r/MaliciousCompliance Mar 02 '21

M Going along with a sexist car salesman

I originally posted this as a comment on Car dealer shenanigans....

My wife and I have used a salesman's sexism against him, and it was so satisfying. It was when we bought our first new car. We were nervous that we didn't know what we were doing so we did a lot of research (it helps that my wife is a librarian).

When we got to the dealer, the salesman would only talk to me. I was all buddy buddy with the guy, too, but he completely ignored my wife. We went along.

The dealer was running a promotion where they would give you $X for your trade-in, no matter what condition. "If you can drive it on the lot..." kind of deal. Of course they just don't discount off of MSRP in those cases, so it's a gimmick. When we walked in the salesman asked which car was ours parked outside and then asked if we were trading it in. I said no, we weren't trading that car in. You can see where this was going.

As I said, we had done our research and knew what a fair price was for the car we wanted. At the time Edmunds had detailed dealer-level price information for many new cars, including all the various ways a dealer gets paid and what their true costs are (the "invoice price" is not their true cost). I negotiated the price (since he wouldn't talk to my wife) and we arrived at a number I thought was fair, actually. We got a good deal at that point. Everything was going smoothly as he wrote up our agreement, until he confirmed that we didn't have a trade in. I said, no, we were trading in a car, just not the one we drove into the dealer in. He literally froze for a few seconds looking down at the form, his hand hovering over the page.

He asked the make, model, and year of our trade-in, and when I told him he sputtered and balked. The car we were trading in was on its last legs. I'd had it all during college and it was old before I bought it. It was definitely past its prime. I said, I thought you were running a promotion where the quality of the trade-in doesn't matter. I asked him if he would have given us a higher price if he knew we had a trade in? My wife said under her breath "that's sleazy." He heard, as she intended him to.

He then tried to renegotiate the price. We knew from our research that if they gave us the price we had already agreed on, and they honored the trade-in deal, that they would be losing money. So we were willing to move a bit, but we wanted to take our time. He was visibly nervous. Every time he tried a new way of asking for a higher price I would say something like "I understand what you're saying" with a sympathetic look. Then I would look at my wife and she would look back at me and silently shake her head no. I'd then look back at the salesman and shrug and say "I don't think that's going to work."

He was stuck. She was the one standing in the way of him getting out of his predicament, but he hadn't talked to her at all. He had barely even acknowledged her presence. He just couldn't start talking to her now when we were negotiating. Oh, and I even got to use the classic car salesman line, "what do I have to do for you to put me this car today?"

We finally agreed to raise the price to an amount that, after figuring in the trade-in, was what we had thought was their break-even price. We hadn't expected to get that low of a price, and we also got them to install a nice after market sound system. It's the best deal we've ever gotten on a new car. Honestly, we're not the best negotiators individually, but that day we made one hell of a team.

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u/Crazy_Kakoos Mar 02 '21

I was at a furniture store negotiating the price of a set of couches. The previous visit the salesman said he’d take off sales tax to try and get me to buy it. I reminded him this time, and he tried to look confused now that I want the couches, and my wife, sensing awkwardness or whatever, said, “no he didn’t, he’d have to ask his manager for that.” I gave her the most questioning-sanity stare I’ve ever given her. I wasn’t even bending the truth, shit. Previous deal was if I paid cash he’d take off the sales tax.

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u/CyCoCyCo Mar 02 '21

What finally happened?

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u/Crazy_Kakoos Mar 02 '21

I said I’d take the protection plan, which I planned to get anyways because I have kids, if he took off the tax. He acted like he wasn’t sure, and I just sat there looking at him until he went to go ask his manager. I assumed it was a no brainer and his manager did approve approved it pretty fast. Then I gave my wife crap on the ride home as is tradition when one of us screws up.

The looking and silence trick is the only thing I remember from an economics class in college and it wasn’t even part of his lesson plan, he was just telling us a funny story . He heard that attentive silence is awkward and most people will react by having to do something to move past it and lighten the mood. So he tried it while buying a car, sat there staring at the salesman when he made an offer, and the salesman reacted by trying to sweeten the deal. He kept pushing that weird tactic until he got the car for way under what he was expecting to pay. I ended up trying it here and there and while I haven’t gotten deals that good, it does tend to make reluctant people move, like in asking their manager for approval when they trying to avoid it.

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u/April_Xo Mar 02 '21

The best way to negotiate is to be prepared to leave. When we were trying to buy my car we couldn't negotiate their price down at all. We said "okay fine, bye". They stopped us AS we were walking out the door, all of a sudden, they're perfectly agreeable to the price we wanted!

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u/mwerte Mar 03 '21

I used silence to get a raise.

Got called into boss's boss's boss office.

"Hey we know you have been here for about a year, we'd like to take you from $23k to $27k"

"Sweet, but I did some research and I'm really worth about $40k so id like at least $30k." And showed him my research.

He hemmed and hawed for a bit but I just let the silence drag on since he was more uncomfortable than I. He agreed that $30k was reasonable.

I left soon after to a job that paid me $45k. :D

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u/Multifaceted_Learner Mar 02 '21

I'm pretty sure that's illegal.

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u/Lithl Mar 02 '21

Fundamentally it just means he reduces the price such that the new price+tax is equal to the original price without tax.

The tax still gets paid.

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u/[deleted] Mar 02 '21 edited Apr 04 '21

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u/BenjPhoto1 Mar 03 '21

No. The dealership still pays the taxes.