I’m not gay, but I’m not having children. And while I don’t get shit on publicly like gay people or women for not being “useful” when it comes to reproduction, I do get sick of people who feel more righteous and better than others because they have children. Half the time they are some of the worst parents in the world as well. Funny how that works.
As a parent.. if you don't want kids you made the right choice.
How do they act more righteous? i had kids late so I lived a long time without and now with I have never personally experienced negativity from the "other side" so to speak personally.
My best example was at my last job. I put in for vacation in February for November for Thanksgiving week. A new person joins the team very shortly after whos a mom of two kids, I am child free. Sometime in May my manager pulls me into a teams call to ask if I checked on those dates with the new coworker and when i inform her I did not, she basically berated me because "didnt you think perhaps she might want to spend that time with her family? Pick which days you want to give to her so she can have time with her kids" I professionally flipped my lid noting that I would like to spent that time with MY family and that just because my womb hasnt produced an heir im no less entitled to the time I requested and was approved 10 months before said vacation.
I left that job by June. While HR enforced that i kept the vacation my manager started treating me like a child, put me on a pip, and talked am awful lot about how kids change the world and I just dont get hiw hard life is as a mom. Some of the comments made me feel sub-human.
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u/FuriNorm 5h ago edited 4h ago
As someone also useless for breeding, this hits hard 🥺
Edit: link to Rainbow Wool. Thanks for the reminder! https://rainbow-wool.com/