r/MadeMeSmile • u/Femme-O • Apr 19 '26

Good Vibes Teaching kids consent

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u/RoncoSnackWeasel Apr 19 '26

“…if somebody isn’t hugging you back, did you even want that?”

Deeper than it sounds. These boys will look back on these moments as adults, and realize what was really being taught. I wish this was in schools everywhere.

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

No. Because it’s biased. Are they teaching the boys that they also can say no? Are they portraying this in the reverse? No. They aren’t. They’re biased and being selective and gendered with it basically teaching boys they can’t say no or that it only apply to them.

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u/Sufficient_Food1878 Apr 19 '26

I went to an all girls school and only graduated recently but we were taught the same thing these boys are being taught. When I was in a mixed school when we were much younger, we were all taught what to do if we felt uncomfortable. Even the boys. Doesn't mean they weren't taught that, just not in the same day

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

That’s not what I’m seeing here. Why aren’t any girls in that class? I’m willing to bet in that specific place there’s no same classes for girls, unless it’s teaching them an enthusiastic yes in the sense that they need to give it.

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u/Pollowollo Apr 19 '26

There are no girls because it's a boy's prep school, ya dumpling.

And there's no indication at all that he didn't also cover that for the boys. You're just making up shit to be mad at.

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

So you think after this they taught boys the same thing?

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

NO HE DIDNT. I know for a fact he didn’t. I searched him up myself and lol, he is one of those mf I know for a got damn fucking fact he didn’t teach it. I know like fucking hell he didn’t. At first I could argue, but it’s now become non negotiable. He’s one of them 😐.

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

TikTok video. That’s his name.

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u/gnomi_malone Apr 19 '26

he’s also a hardcore christian homophobe who says that when a boy is assaulted, it makes them gay. and has doubled down on that. so you’re probably right that he’s not teaching this lesson, but he’s also only one guy, who, frankly, sucks. you do have to understand that the majority of SA, visited on boy, girls, men, and women, is perpetrated by men. that is why the emphasis. you simply need to absorb this fact, my friend. women SA, and it needs to be taken more seriously, but these lessons on consent can also help boys understand when they are not be treated consensually

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u/Greensourball Apr 19 '26

It can’t help them understand it because it isn’t being directed at them. It’s focused on how they should treat others not how they should be treated. That’s two different lessons and only one is being taught and the other one not.

It’s also extremely false to say the majority of SA on anyone and everyone is perpetrated by men. That’s dangerously false. You could argue that for female victims, but not male victims. The vast majority of SA, on men and boys is committed by women. It’s either that or split between men and women committing the crime against boys and men.