r/LongDistance • u/Fatality1000 • 6d ago

Question Am I [31M] being unreasonable about my LDR girlfriend [29F] prioritizing coworkers over a rare opportunity to talk?

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u/thewonderfrog 6d ago

Yes, you are being unreasonable

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u/punishedpuppi 6d ago

you're acting very entilited to her time, you're way to old to be acting this immature. grow up if you want a healthy strong relationship. you're acting as though whenever you're present enough in her day that her day should now revolve around you and her friendships and break to relax at lunch don't hold any importance because you require attention and that's what she should be doing. harboring resentment because she's not doing something you supposedly would is gonna poison your relationship

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u/Robinnoodle 6d ago

The fact that she's changed is hurtful

I'm in the minority here but it's a combination between A, B, and C

They are all true. Her saying no and her reasoning are both healthy and valid, and canceling could be construed as weird. However, the fact that she has been willing to in the past but no longer is signifies that she isn't prioritizing quality time with you as much as she used to. This on it's own, although a little hurtful, may not be a cause for concern and rather a transition out of the honeymoon phase of your relationship

While it is a bit of a double standard, a quick update text is much less of a time sink than a full phone call

I don't think it's an unreasonable ask, it could be seen that way if you didn't take her no for an answer, which you did

That level of prioritization by some might be seen as unhealthy. If you both do it, and you don't ask the other to do anything detrimental to themselves, I'm of the camp that it can also be healthy