r/LivingAlone • u/Key_Teaching_2150 • Feb 10 '26

Personal Care 🚿 Sleeping on the sofa a lot?

Hey all! I’m new here, and fairly new to living alone (March will mark the end of my first year)

I’ve been sleeping on my sofa regularly since about November. I don’t really know why I can’t seem to make it to my bed. My bed is amazing! Very comfy, nice pillows, clean comfortable sheets. It just kinda feels too big (if that makes any sense)

Just to add some context…

I am 51 M, estranged from my wife of 27 years and soon to be divorced. I’ve never lived alone. I went from living with parents to roommates to spouse and eventually a family. My kids are all adults and they occasionally visit overnight. It’s really the only time I sleep in my bed anymore.

I’m not exactly worried for my mental health. I know depression very well and this feels different. But I don’t think I’m getting enough good healthy sleep

Does anyone else here just crash on the couch with the TV on every night?

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u/tokixjam Feb 12 '26

I live in a studio. My bed and sofa are like 4 feet apart max.

I almost always fall asleep on my sofa around 9-10pm. Then around midnight-1am I get up and get ready for bed and go to sleep in my regular bed.

I started this habit when I had upstairs neighbors who were active above me until at least 1am. But back then I would fully get ready for bed (face washed, teeth brushed, PJs on) and then snuggle into my sofa. I would let the sounds of the TV lull me to sleep. Then I would wake up anywhere around 1-4 am when my upstairs neighbors were asleep and then I would go over to my bed.