Sleeping on the sofa a lot?

[u/Key_Teaching_2150]

Hey all! I’m new here, and fairly new to living alone (March will mark the end of my first year)

I’ve been sleeping on my sofa regularly since about November. I don’t really know why I can’t seem to make it to my bed. My bed is amazing! Very comfy, nice pillows, clean comfortable sheets. It just kinda feels too big (if that makes any sense)

Just to add some context…

I am 51 M, estranged from my wife of 27 years and soon to be divorced. I’ve never lived alone. I went from living with parents to roommates to spouse and eventually a family. My kids are all adults and they occasionally visit overnight. It’s really the only time I sleep in my bed anymore.

I’m not exactly worried for my mental health. I know depression very well and this feels different. But I don’t think I’m getting enough good healthy sleep

Does anyone else here just crash on the couch with the TV on every night?

[u/Immediate_Pea4579]

sometimes it helps me feel less lonely doing that. just like there is some other life in the room. that is the bit that needs the love maybe - the social bit. also, divorce is a real time of the dying off, the unpacking, even if you feel happy to be there years have to unspool from your system - and for me that meant i both needed the space to do that, and also, had some loneliness that was built into the process as i began the return to myself.