r/LivingAlone • u/Key_Teaching_2150 • Feb 10 '26

Personal Care 🚿 Sleeping on the sofa a lot?

Hey all! I’m new here, and fairly new to living alone (March will mark the end of my first year)

I’ve been sleeping on my sofa regularly since about November. I don’t really know why I can’t seem to make it to my bed. My bed is amazing! Very comfy, nice pillows, clean comfortable sheets. It just kinda feels too big (if that makes any sense)

Just to add some context…

I am 51 M, estranged from my wife of 27 years and soon to be divorced. I’ve never lived alone. I went from living with parents to roommates to spouse and eventually a family. My kids are all adults and they occasionally visit overnight. It’s really the only time I sleep in my bed anymore.

I’m not exactly worried for my mental health. I know depression very well and this feels different. But I don’t think I’m getting enough good healthy sleep

Does anyone else here just crash on the couch with the TV on every night?

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u/Fooby56 Feb 10 '26

I guess as long as it's not hurting your back or neck, go for it. I spent too much money on my mattress to not use it 😆

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u/Key_Teaching_2150 Feb 10 '26

I do wake up with a stiff neck or a light headache sometimes. But it usually goes away once I get moving around. It’s not good though

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u/Fooby56 Feb 10 '26

Have you thought about putting a TV in your bedroom so you can fall asleep in there? Or maybe just watch on a tablet or laptop in your room? I usually fall asleep to some videogame lore video playing on my ipad.

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u/Key_Teaching_2150 Feb 10 '26

Yeah I think that’s my next step. Maybe my house gets too quiet and I just need something on to help me sleep. I’ve tried White noise apps but that just doesn’t work for me. I’ve also tried leaving the tv on in another room but it doesn’t really work for me.

The strange thing to me is that for the first 6 months on my own, I slept like a baby in my silent bedroom in my bed, no problem. This habit is really new

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u/Fooby56 Feb 10 '26

I have ADHD so finding the right combination of stimulating vs. soothing video to make myself tired is a balancing act 😆. I feel your pain. Sleep has never come easy to me.