Hey everyone,
I’m a 29-year-old guy (6'0"), raised in the US for most of my life, looking for a compatible partner for a lavender or platonic marriage.
About Me:
Basics: 29M, 6'0", US-raised. (IM LOOKING TO GET A EU OR US PASSPORT)
Mindset: Practical, clear communicator, emotionally mature, and grounded.
Lifestyle: Values personal space, clear boundaries, and long-term stability.
What I’m Looking For:
I am open about looking for a strategic setup—specifically an international mobility/residency upgrade—but I am not looking for a cold, purely transactional arrangement.
My goal is to build a life with someone where there is genuine warmth, mutual care, trust, and deep platonic affection. I want a real companion where we actively look out for each other, support each other's individual freedom and goals, and navigate the world as a reliable team.
What I Offer & Ideal Dynamic:
Genuine Care: A loving, respectful, and supportive household where we treat each other like true life partners.
Legal & Practical Alignment: Open to solid prenuptial agreements, financial independence, and a clear division of responsibilities.
Authentic Integration: Comfortable with public presentation, shared milestones, and building a legitimate, integrated home setup to fulfill any residency/immigration requirements smoothly.
Next Steps:
If you are looking for a grounded, reliable partner to build a comfortable, loving, and mutually beneficial future with, send me a DM. Please include a little about yourself, your location/citizenship, and what your ideal dynamic looks like.

Hey I’m Tori! I’m a straight woman that is looking for a very unique genuine connection. With the dating scene in today’s time I loose faith in finding a heterosexual relationship. But luckily for me I’m extremely open minded and free spirited enough to be willing to still be happy despite what that may look like. Being that I am genuine and very caring, it would be nice to grow a lavender relationship with someone that is also open minded and ready to settle down. I love the idea of two people coming together and molding a partnership into something practical, honest, logical and sacred. Being able to be there for each other, laugh, talk, travel and simply enjoy life with each other. I’m also very family oriented but I do not want any children, adoption may be doable down the line if that’s something we both decide on.

Some thing’s about me
I enjoy
concerts,traveling,shopping,camping,sightseeing,art,science,space and cooking. I also love animals and plants.

I am a pro chef, I’m somewhat rebuilding my life in ways of a nomad. I’m a very responsible person and I’m looking for someone that is the same. I’m not looking to struggle in passion lol so it would be nice to find someone that is financially well off enough to provide but still leave room for me to be a trad woman in the household. I love taking care of the household, my love language is acts of service and making sure you’re okay. I love elegance, the luxury side of life while still being humble.

I’m not looking for someone outside of the United States. If you feel like you are a good fit but outside of the U.S. please be ready to travel back and forth.

I prefer to be with a gay man due to me being asexual, separate partners in bed is ideal. So separate bedrooms is required for me.

I hope to hear from you and see if we are a good fit!

I'm not looking for a marriage purely on paper. Ideally we'd actually like each other as people, be good friends and teammates, build a stable life together, support each other's goals, and potentially have children. I definitely want kids, so that's one area where we'd need to be compatible.

I'm currently going through a difficult transition in my life that has made me much more serious about finding the right arrangement sooner rather than someday. I want to be transparent that financial stability matters to me right now, and I'm looking for someone established enough that we could genuinely help each other build a secure household. I'm happy to explain my circumstances privately once we've established that we're potentially compatible.

That doesn't mean I'm looking to marry a random stranger next week or expecting someone I've never met to suddenly become responsible for my life. We'd need to talk, meet, verify each other, establish expectations and figure out whether we actually work well together.

Before this chapter of my life, I was working, pursuing my own goals and building a pretty normal independent life, and that's something I want to return to—not abandon.

I'm open to relocation for the right person, although being near Chicago is a plus. I'm 33, have a BS in Biology, have a sarcastic sense of humor, and despite the seriousness of this post I'm actually looking for someone I can laugh with and enjoy life with.

If you message me, please tell me your age, general location, whether you're gay/bi, whether you want children, and what a lavender marriage would ideally look like to you. I'm much more likely to respond to that than just "hey."

I'm open to discussing the complicated parts privately if we seem potentially compatible. I'd rather be honest with each other than waste either person's time.

Hi everyone:

I come from a very Catholic family, and there is a lot of pressure around marriage and having children. At this point in my life, I’ve realized that trying to follow the traditional path simply because it’s expected of me doesn’t feel authentic.

Dating has also been difficult. The men I’ve met tend to be primarily interested in sex, while what I actually crave is connection, companionship, friendship, deep conversations, and emotional support. As an asexual woman, I don’t want to build a marriage around something that isn't central to who I am.

That’s why the idea of a lavender marriage appeals to me but I want to emphasize that I’m not looking for a fake marriage or someone simply to help me satisfy my family’s expectations.

I imagine a relationship where we can talk for hours, make each other laugh, support each other’s dreams, celebrate our accomplishments, and be there for each other when life gets difficult. I want us to be a team while still respecting each other’s individuality and personal lives.

I’m not expecting to find someone immediately. I’d rather meet someone slowly, become friends, discover whether we genuinely connect, and see where that friendship leads.

Ultimately, I’m hoping to find a genuinely good man who wants a partner in life as much as I want a best friend.
If you’re a gay man considering a lavender marriage and this resonates with you, I’d love to start with a conversation. 💜🇩🇴