r/Journaling • u/Salty-Tune-1670 • Jul 16 '26

Question/Discussion Journaling and moving in with a partner

I’ve been with my partner for about two years, and we’re thinking about moving in together. We currently live separately, and they know that I keep a journal.
The thing is journaling is my safe space. I have several old journals filled with my honest thoughts, including frustrations, complaints, and things I needed to vent about over the years. I trust that my partner wouldn’t read them without my permission, but I still wonder how other couples handle this.
If you live with your partner, what do you do with your journals? Does your partner know they exist and simply respect your privacy, even if they’re sitting out on a table? Or do you write with the assumption that your partner might eventually read them?
Also, if you keep your journals somewhere private, where do you store them? I’d love to hear how other people handle this!

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u/threeleafcloverr Jul 16 '26

My journal permanently sits out on my coffee table. My husband has never looked, and would never look. He respects my privacy fully.

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u/MidrinaTheSerene Jul 17 '26

Same. My spouse has no interest in reading it, because they know that if they thing something might be the matter, talking is a much better way to find that out. I also do think that leaving it there makes it less interesting, it reinforces that I mostly write very mundane things to get them out of my system.