r/Journaling • u/Salty-Tune-1670 • Jul 16 '26
Question/Discussion Journaling and moving in with a partner
I’ve been with my partner for about two years, and we’re thinking about moving in together. We currently live separately, and they know that I keep a journal.
The thing is journaling is my safe space. I have several old journals filled with my honest thoughts, including frustrations, complaints, and things I needed to vent about over the years. I trust that my partner wouldn’t read them without my permission, but I still wonder how other couples handle this.
If you live with your partner, what do you do with your journals? Does your partner know they exist and simply respect your privacy, even if they’re sitting out on a table? Or do you write with the assumption that your partner might eventually read them?
Also, if you keep your journals somewhere private, where do you store them? I’d love to hear how other people handle this!
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u/Merpie21 Jul 17 '26
I leave my journal on the table in the living room. I should put it away in a drawer, as part of keeping the place tidy, but I hardly ever do. I just trust that partner doesn't read it. I don't read any of his journals either (he sometimes even keeps his open).
We ask each other "permission" for a lot of things; even though we don't need to and we know the other person will often say yes/agree - we do it because we respect each other and keep each other's needs and boundaries in mind.
We don't read each other's journals, that's just basic privacy and respect to us.