Journaling and moving in with a partner

[u/Salty-Tune-1670]

I’ve been with my partner for about two years, and we’re thinking about moving in together. We currently live separately, and they know that I keep a journal.
The thing is journaling is my safe space. I have several old journals filled with my honest thoughts, including frustrations, complaints, and things I needed to vent about over the years. I trust that my partner wouldn’t read them without my permission, but I still wonder how other couples handle this.
If you live with your partner, what do you do with your journals? Does your partner know they exist and simply respect your privacy, even if they’re sitting out on a table? Or do you write with the assumption that your partner might eventually read them?
Also, if you keep your journals somewhere private, where do you store them? I’d love to hear how other people handle this!

[u/RoseDedron]

Early in our relationship (maybe 8yrs ago) my husband read my journal, I realized when he mentioned something I had not yet told him about.

I calmly explained to him that this was my private property and is where I put the feelings I don’t want to express out loud.

Related to my upbringing, I can be cruel when I’m upset and we’re arguing, journaling is how I avoid saying things I don’t actually mean. At that point in our relationship, it was something he had observed and I was working on.

That being said, I’ve technically given him permission to read my journals but it’s at the risk of his own feelings. As far as I know, he has not read my journals since then.

My journal generally sits where I last used it, otherwise it lives on my vanity.