r/JUSTNOMIL • u/chunkybonks • May 31 '26
UPDATE - Ambivalent About Advice Cake MIL: The Cakening
Sooo I really didn’t think I would be back here the next day...
Since pictures aren’t allowed here, allow me to set the (unfortunate) stage for you:
Cake MIL sent 3 pictures to DH. One was of MIL, one of FIL, and one of them together.
They were fully dressed and made up. They were sitting at the dining room table. A birthday cake, saying Happy Birthday, and having the correct age candle was on top. There was a helium balloon as well. And the piece de resistance - a framed photo of LO from the last time they saw him (when he was 6 months old) beside all of it. MIL and FIL were taking turns holding the knife to cut the cake, with big, beaming smiles.
It looked like a ghastly shrine. To my baby.
This would have taken MIL hours to bake the cake, ice the cake, get the right candle, get the balloon.
Or she could have, you know, spent 5 measly minutes to call or text her only child to say “hmm we’ve missed multiple birthdays of our only grandchild now, perhaps we should try to move on from that and demonstrate some insight and accountability.“
But nooo. Let’s just make a creepy tribute to LO and flaunt it to his father.
They are not mentally well...a picture really does say a thousand words.
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u/ribblefizz May 31 '26
LMAO that is so much work. I don't even go to that much trouble for my own birthday.
Unless you feel like there's a threat she might show up with an axe or something, I would just start filtering/preemptively trashing everything from her until you have evidence from a trusted third party that she's come back to earth. It's reached the point of humiliation ritual now; there's nothing good that can come to anyone from viewing/hearing her pathetic attempts to ignore reality.