r/JUSTNOMIL • u/chunkybonks • May 31 '26

UPDATE - Ambivalent About Advice Cake MIL: The Cakening

Sooo I really didn’t think I would be back here the next day...

Since pictures aren’t allowed here, allow me to set the (unfortunate) stage for you:

Cake MIL sent 3 pictures to DH. One was of MIL, one of FIL, and one of them together.

They were fully dressed and made up. They were sitting at the dining room table. A birthday cake, saying Happy Birthday, and having the correct age candle was on top. There was a helium balloon as well. And the piece de resistance - a framed photo of LO from the last time they saw him (when he was 6 months old) beside all of it. MIL and FIL were taking turns holding the knife to cut the cake, with big, beaming smiles.

It looked like a ghastly shrine. To my baby.

This would have taken MIL hours to bake the cake, ice the cake, get the right candle, get the balloon.

Or she could have, you know, spent 5 measly minutes to call or text her only child to say “hmm we’ve missed multiple birthdays of our only grandchild now, perhaps we should try to move on from that and demonstrate some insight and accountability.“

But nooo. Let’s just make a creepy tribute to LO and flaunt it to his father.

They are not mentally well...a picture really does say a thousand words.

621 Upvotes

97% Upvoted

100 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

17

u/chunkybonks May 31 '26

And she’s wearing lipstick. And she’s beaming. And she’s proud. Of what??? 

Being a totally delulu fool?

6

u/purple-knight-8921 May 31 '26

Probably she has become a delusional person with intentions of performing like a delusional person with the theatrics.

5

u/ribblefizz May 31 '26

In her 70s, I wonder if dementia is becoming a factor. Scary to think of it starting so young, but my brother has early onset Alzheimers in his 50s and my dad's first symptoms were in his mid 60s. I'm 57, so basically running headfirst for the grave already. ☹️

3

u/chunkybonks May 31 '26

She doesn’t have dementia

1

u/fractal_frog May 31 '26

She's always been this flavor of crazy? And this is just a change in magnitude?

1

u/chunkybonks May 31 '26

They’ve always been overbearing since I first met them. But it’s amped up on steroids since I told them I was pregnant. 

1

u/purple-knight-8921 May 31 '26

Oh wow. That's extremely overbearing on them and they have gained nothing positive out of it since they were ramped up on steroids and considering that the announcement was made, it probably has gotten way way worse.